Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Some days I think Ive got this.
Most days I cry all day. For the silliest reason, in shops in banks just sitting on the sofa....today I started crying in the library and the only thing I had to dry my eyes was a panty liner in my bag. Thats quite funny but I wish I could just stop.
I spoke to him today. I knew I shouldnt and I didnt mean to but we started a text conversation and he started saying horrible things, that I was a con woman and a liar....I rang him and he siad he felt better now hes got that all out. Im just left baffled and crying. He siad I can come home but I have to do exactly what he says until I am back on my feet again. I can stay in a spare room but not with him as I am dead to him.
Im so confused and dont understand.
I need to go NC but I am so lonely. My firends and daughter and parents are so fed up and cross with me that I cant just snap out of it. My parents just get cross, they have pretty much had nothing much to do with me since I left him and get angry when I discuss how I feel. My Mum just ignores it all and changes the subject, my Dad just gets angry and asks why are you like this, whats the matter with you? and shakes his fists.
I really need to move on. I will be better when I can go NC. I think a part of me always felt I still could go back but I know after the things he said today I cant. Im glad.
I handled the break up badly. I should have had it out with him. I just left and didnt go back, it was still ongoing really. I should have said to him I was leaving as he has abused me for years and was violent. But instead I slunk off and let him be the one to say you cant come back. I messed that up. I should have taken ownership of that. I have put myself in 'victim' mode and its been unhealthy. But I was scared.
Thats the only regret I have really. I am hurting. And Im lonely in a new town with no job or friends. I think about not living, which isnt the same as wanting to die. I think how much less pain it would be. I think about finding a new guy but I know it isnt the answer. I need to find Me first.
For their therapy and support groups. This is going
to Be a terrible transitioning period for you. You still
Have a long way to go with the divorce and what Not.
You need to get your power back from your Abuser
and that takes time and no contact. Your Family does
not sound like they are willing to give You any support.
Many times that is the case because We marry what
Is familar. HUGS