Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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We fought all night last night. Our routine has been the same thing all week. Since she has kicked me to the extra room yet, we put the kids to bed, then go to bed at the same time.
We always end up talking. We always end up fighting, well its more her getting mad and me getting sad than an actual fight.
Usually its me trying to find some angle to make her see why this is a mistake and why I deserve a chance. Then it ends up with her getting mad about saying the same things over and over again. Then she will say something like "maybe it would be better for your treatment if I just end it before you start". Which just floored me. She said I had a chance to get things right and try to show her that we can be together and be happy. But when she says those things..well then alarms go off.
She seems to remember our whole relationship worse and worse each time we talk. Its like we NEVER had a good day in 10 years. That hurts so much because even if we do end up apart, it would hurt me so bad to think she is going to go through her life thinking our marriage was a failure and nothing but a waste of 10 years.
She has changed so much. The young, laughing, kind of silly and immature at times girl is gone. Now there is just a mature, professional business woman who feels its time to be selfish. She is so angry to me. I would have NEVER believed that the Carrie I knew could be so mean and unfeeling towards someone she loved/loves.
I cried at the gas station today. I saw an old couple walking out. I had been thinking at the time that maybe she would find another guy, it would go bad, and she would come back to me (we all think this at some point). Then I saw the old couple and I started crying. No its more likely Carrie will find someone to be happy with the rest of her life; and she will die with that mans love.
How do I get through the day thinking about such things.
Now im at home, the house is empty, im all alone. The drugs im taking just arent helping me today.
We always end up talking. We always end up fighting, well its more her getting mad and me getting sad than an actual fight.
Usually its me trying to find some angle to make her see why this is a mistake and why I deserve a chance. Then it ends up with her getting mad about saying the same things over and over again. Then she will say something like "maybe it would be better for your treatment if I just end it before you start". Which just floored me. She said I had a chance to get things right and try to show her that we can be together and be happy. But when she says those things..well then alarms go off.
She seems to remember our whole relationship worse and worse each time we talk. Its like we NEVER had a good day in 10 years. That hurts so much because even if we do end up apart, it would hurt me so bad to think she is going to go through her life thinking our marriage was a failure and nothing but a waste of 10 years.
She has changed so much. The young, laughing, kind of silly and immature at times girl is gone. Now there is just a mature, professional business woman who feels its time to be selfish. She is so angry to me. I would have NEVER believed that the Carrie I knew could be so mean and unfeeling towards someone she loved/loves.
I cried at the gas station today. I saw an old couple walking out. I had been thinking at the time that maybe she would find another guy, it would go bad, and she would come back to me (we all think this at some point). Then I saw the old couple and I started crying. No its more likely Carrie will find someone to be happy with the rest of her life; and she will die with that mans love.
How do I get through the day thinking about such things.
Now im at home, the house is empty, im all alone. The drugs im taking just arent helping me today.
Blessings to you
In my case, the best answer is silence. We pass each other in the hall more or less. If I don't need to talk with her, I don't. Now, I'm not trying to save the relationship, nor is she, we are just trying to survive until we get to the next phase. If you don't choose this option then the two of you need to commit to counseling. Best of luck
I know exactly how you feel but understand, you will get past that point.