Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
My mind has proven to create an illusion for me when it came to my relationship. I have been abused for 2 years and have convinced myself the abuse was love.
Normally when my ex Fiance would put me out she would at least answer my calls every 6 hours or so then about 2 days before rent was due she would let me back into what she called our home.
This time around was different after an altercation she has refused to speak or return my text. The only thing different is this time when I went to her house she showed up with a man that looked 15 years her senior. I don't have anything against the age but when you know your mate has used people in the past to support her drug habit you immediately see the picture for what it is.
I now am facing the reality that I chose to see all her mistreatment as acts of love because I was so desperate. I wanted to believe that if you did the right thing by someone that in the end they would do right by you. I asked her over and over if she was seeing anyone else based on her behavior. Each time she said no.
Now once she put me out I had no money no where to go and she wont even return my call or text when I asked if i could sleep there until I get paid. I explained to her I used all my money to pay her bills because her unemployment ended. I only needed about 4 days and I would be able to afford a motel for 2 weeks until I figure out where to go. I can't believe no response.
Basically I could be dead right now and she could care less all because she no longer needs me financially. I can't believe my mind kept showing me a person who appreciated my sacrifice's. She has been using me from day 1 and making me feel like I was in a relationship. It's scary what illusions your mind can create.
Normally when my ex Fiance would put me out she would at least answer my calls every 6 hours or so then about 2 days before rent was due she would let me back into what she called our home.
This time around was different after an altercation she has refused to speak or return my text. The only thing different is this time when I went to her house she showed up with a man that looked 15 years her senior. I don't have anything against the age but when you know your mate has used people in the past to support her drug habit you immediately see the picture for what it is.
I now am facing the reality that I chose to see all her mistreatment as acts of love because I was so desperate. I wanted to believe that if you did the right thing by someone that in the end they would do right by you. I asked her over and over if she was seeing anyone else based on her behavior. Each time she said no.
Now once she put me out I had no money no where to go and she wont even return my call or text when I asked if i could sleep there until I get paid. I explained to her I used all my money to pay her bills because her unemployment ended. I only needed about 4 days and I would be able to afford a motel for 2 weeks until I figure out where to go. I can't believe no response.
Basically I could be dead right now and she could care less all because she no longer needs me financially. I can't believe my mind kept showing me a person who appreciated my sacrifice's. She has been using me from day 1 and making me feel like I was in a relationship. It's scary what illusions your mind can create.
As long as you are true to yourself and always do your BEST in all situations, you will be fine.
My ex is still the same guy today that he was 16 years ago...just older.
I'm glad I got out when I did, because it allowed both of us to unglue ourselves from a marriage that was dragging us both down.
I learned so much about myself...and have become much truer to myself in the process. I know what I am capable of, I know what I will and will not compromise on. I know, and have always known, how valuable my dignity and self-worth are.
I will put myself, my TRUE. honest self forward, and that's that. I cannot change or "fix" other people, any more than they can change or "fix" me...but as long as I am always ME in ALL situations, then I know I have lived and communicated honestly.