Well.... I am trying this to see if it works. I am not sure if it will but I cannot live a life of hell anymore. I have set him free. I cannot fight the ghost of the past and I have give himhis freedom and taken mine. I asked him this morning to stop calling until he could make up his mind what he wanted. Then he told me that I never loved him. What does he want. his cake and eat it too. I am not going to do that. It was fine for him to live with me while i was paying for everything and cooking and cleaning and taking care of him and being the perfect wife and he send his money to his kids and he try to find a new life with someone new. Over the phone. He says not so just friends. I don't know. SMELLS FISHY. But anyway. Now that this woman wants money and this and that. Who knows. i just know when I get ALL my stuff from the house and he is left with what I found him with she canhave him. I still love him. I do. I set him free. If he comes back it better be on hands and knees with a ROCK the size of the hope and a house and a car and he better be prepared to grovel. Better yet ever heard of rice torture. I will make him sit on his knees on rice for 4 hours each night while kissing my feet. No just joking. This woman Is 2000 mile away. I am now afraid of her. He is going through problems. He needs to deal with. But he will have alot of groveling to do. If he comes back. i am not counting on it. As I have made it clear to him I am ready to let him go. i have struggled for 9 years this july. I am tired. I love him but it is time for change.