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If love hurts is it worth having?

Painfuldivorce
Painfuldivorce

I went through periods of questioning "love" as giving it unconditionally left me heartbroken and confused along with the emotional roalercoaster as I attempt to make sense of it all - divorce, separation and breakup shattering the hurts of many including mine. Started this post to vent and claim that loving someone isn't worth the pain. If love hearts so bad, it it worth having?


I like to think that it is worth the pain even as I am experiencing that pain as I type this post. Anyone think otherwise while going thru separation of some sort? Is the joy from loving worth the pain I am  experiencing as I maneuver through separation. 


angelheart077
angelheart077
I'm sorry you're going through a painful divorce situation. It sounds as if you have a lot of unanswered questions. I wish I had the answer to them, but I don't. I will be praying for your heart to mend and you find a great support group of maybe friends and family that will rally around you and love you and be there for you as you try and heal. Hugs & prayers from Texas ; )
Painfuldivorce
Painfuldivorce
Thank you for your kind words @angelheart007
stardust7
stardust7
I've had some horrible breakups (both marriages and from GFs) but in the end I still feel the good times make it worth it all. Each experience somehow helps us understand ourselves a little better, what we do/don't want in a partner and sometimes we can even learn to be a better partner by looking where we fell short.
My 1st divorce devistated me for years though I stayed decently positive. At the time I somewhat resented that my mother, who was lost for words could only say "maybe there's something you can learn from this." You know what? 25 years later/2nd marriage I'd suddenly learned my wife was having an affair and had already made all new big plans without me-she was the perfect mate in my mind and we'd had such a good run. Little did I know she's very impulsive and it's come out she'd done this many times before....this marriage was the one that should have crippled me but didn't. I used what I'd learned from the other, the healing process and the fact that you can move on and life can be better than you ever imagined without the ex. Funny it took 25 years for the pain of the 1st divorce to actually help me through the new one but it did.

Learn from every relationship and keep improving on it both in your choices for a mate and your own part in a relationship. Realize all the good that comes from relationships and how it enriches your life....it really is worth it. Yes bad things happen but everyone has it in them to recover and turn the bad into good!