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brooklyn 11/10/2016

on oct 27th 2015, I gave birth to a beautiful baby girl. It was the best moment of my life, but something didn't seem right. I looked at her and fell in love with her and she filled my heart. I was in love. On dec 3 at 4:08am I discovered the most devasting news. My husband had been cheating on me of over a ayear and orchestrated a plan with his girlfriend to leave me and his daughter. When I discover the news I tried to fix it. I spent three months trying to fix it. Sleepless nights taking care of baby. Waking up making him lunch, trying to satisfy him in anyway I could but it wasn't enough. He made my life intentionally miserable so I would leave. And I had to. I was emotionally destroyed. I could go on and on about the details and how we were mistreated but it would take too long. It was awful. We are currently in the middle of a divorce. I want to let go and move on.

PeaceHarmony 11/10/2016

Hi Brooklyn, I am so so sorry for the pain you are going through. Please gather around yourself safe supports; you need them. There is no shame whatsoever in getting all the help you need. This is your time to practice good self care.

brooklyn 11/10/2016

Thank you. It was awful and feel pathetic for still crying about it. I unfortunatley still love him and i dont know why..? hes so mean. he wants to be together but i cannot trust him. thank you for your kind words.

basnime 11/10/2016

You are so strong and brave. I hope you and the baby are safe. Betrayal is so awful. Please know that you are in my thoughts.

Swiftintent 11/11/2016

I'm sorry for the pain you are dealing with right now. Have you guys thought about maybe going to marriage counseling?

brooklyn 11/12/2016

While I was livi there he would say things like,"see I can be a single dad, I don't need you" or "this relationship is over". While I hold my new born in my arms. After I left things got worse, if you could imagine. He was still denying it. He finally admitted to it, tried to ask for forgiveness but by then he succeeded in destroying everything. I can't go back. He said he would change but nothing has. He went on dating sites brought another women home and had sex with her in my bed, our house with a women who's marriage that also broke down because her husband cheated. She has theee kids and has no clue who she was dealing with. Then asked for me back again. There's no way I could ever give this man my whole heart. We did try counseling but I was clear it was to able to coparent. Irreparable in my opinion.

brooklyn 11/12/2016

All i wanted was a family. Never pressure him for anything. He needed sex like twice a day, hide my ring when he was mad at me. Hides money from and more. All different forms of abuse. He is toxic and I think he has a sex addiction which is serious, no doubt but part of the issue. Had this been apparent prior I would be able to work through it. But an orchestrated plan to leave me and his daughter for this women and destroy everything is a bread of person I cannot give my life, heart and soul too.

SassyGrace 11/12/2016

You don't need counseling.

You need to get out of that relationship pronto and establish a decent life for yourself and your child.

Yes it hurts and our dreams get smashed. BUT, this is not the one for you. The universe has better plans for you.

brooklyn 11/12/2016

Agreed. I am living with my parents and have yet to come to a settlement because he is holding it back. We have two properties, a child and a dog. The second property is yet to be completed, continuous delays and he is sitting in the matermonial home living the good life. Don't get me wrong, I have very support parents and they have been amazing but I'm 36 and need to live my own life. Remove the toxic air from their house. This guys has caused a vortex of pain for many people. Thank you SassyGrace I agree, I have begun my own small business, doing what I love during all this so I can prove to myself that I will provide for my daughter and I on my success and live well. It will take time and hard work but I will. The universe does have plans with me.:)

DaK 11/12/2016

Awesome attitude Brooklyn. I wish you all the best. God Bless.

Swiftintent 11/14/2016

I'm sorry for your struggle. Seeing as how you have done counseling and it didn't work and he is doing what he is doing, I agree with SassyGrace. It sounds like you have a plan. Keep your head up and I pray you and your daughter will have a happy outcome and be stronger after all this is said and done :)

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