This isn't about you-it's about him. That's why he's already moved to a new woman. We are not unattractive and unlovable people. Our exes are looking for something missing in them-not us.

I'm glad you posted this. I feel so unattractive since this happened. The least remark makes me feel unattractive.

Yeah my wife left me after 24 years for someone much younger...sucked bad at the time and for some time after. Now 3 years later it was a blessing. With clarity I can see she was full of flaws, not the goddess i thought she was in the aftermath of the breakup. Time does heal

You are beautiful!! Didn't he say that before you got married? He has a problem not you, be thankful he is with her. Before too long he will find someone else and leave her. You hold your head up and be confident and independent. Every . time you see him be positive and smiling. Take better care of yourself and let him wonder what has happened to the "old her". After my divorce my sister & daughter took me to a spa where I got a new look. Hair cut and colored, new clothes and makeup. Then you will feel confident and ready to face the world.

http://theinstituteforsexualhealth.com/thirteen-dimensions-of-sex-addiction-induced-trauma-sait-among-partners-and-spouses-impacted-by-sex-addiction/

Check out Dr. Omar Minwalla's 13 dimensions on what infidelity does to a wife/partner. Feeling ugly is normal after you have been betrayed. But....it's never the truth. Learn all you can about what infidelity does to wives/partners- things will make more sense. And you won't "internalize" the betrayal by feeling unattractive.

After I threw my pervy husband out.....I got a new hair do.....sexy panties......a few pretty new spring dresses. Sometimes little things like these help.

Thank you everyone for your endearing responses! I really appreciate them and need to learn to love myself again.

Please don't feel sad and sorry for you. There is always light at the tunnel and you will see a new friendship and love will appear. Be patient and keep your head up.

I completely understand the feelings you are going through. I felt the same way when my stbe starting dating other women and I felt so ugly and unloved. I decided to change one thing in my life and it was to exercise. I started out going 3 days a week for 30 minutes, it took about a month and I started noticing a difference. So I started to increase the exercise to 5 days a week for an hour and all of the sudden; people started coming up to me and saying how beautiful I looked. It helped a lot, I had to force myself to accept the compliments and guys started noticing as well. My self-esteem is still shaky and I am kind of scared about the guys noticing; but, I am feeling like a newer, better version of myself. My point is find something that makes you feel strong, and when you start showing how strong you are, people start noticing. Good luck.

I understand completely...