Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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playerapr 09/16/2015

I know is an impossible dream but I just wish this feelings will disappear today!!!! This mix of emotions, been sad, to been happy, to feeling defeated and hopeless to feeling like I can conquer the world back to feeling broken and overwhelmed.
Loving him more than anything to hating his guts back to miss him and then back to he's not worth it. The feeling of I deserve better and is time to start respecting myself to this crushing feeling that doesn't let me think.
I love myself and I know I deserve a man that would love me as much as I love him as respect me and at the same this debilitating feeling that clouds my judgment.
Been extremely happy one day, living and enjoy my life to wishing he was next to me enjoying it with me back to I can do this on my own and I don't need him.
I want this anxious feelings to be gone, I want this love feeling to be gone and maybe with it I will get peace in my heart and my mind at ease.

squarel787878 09/16/2015

Let him go for a while you can get him later if you need to.

athletic4ws 09/16/2015

You're right about one thing.. He's not worth it..

No one is worth feeling this way.

Aries1958 09/16/2015

Sorry that you are experiencing such an emotional roller coaster. Truthfully, he is not worth your positive energy. You need your positive energy to do better things. Hugs to you.

playerapr 09/17/2015

Thanks for the support and kind words.
Sometimes I'm just upset at myself for giving him so much power over me.

giveitatry 09/18/2015

I have the same problem. I think it's common. It's so much worse when I see him so I've been avoiding that at all cost. May sound juvenile, but the past couple of days, I drew a small letter 'R" on my hand so when I look down, I remember that I need to practice Respecting myself. I need to remember the bad to keep me strong. Can't allow myself to think of the good times I'm missing; sets me so far back when I do that. You have to gently get those thoughts out of your head when you notice yourself filling your head with them. Sometimes I want to remember...what is that all about? I struggle with it but I guess it's part of the process. Good luck...things will get better. Slowly, it will happen. You'll notice you'll have more moments in the day when you're not consumed by this.

sakuraowl 09/18/2015

I understand, for me , it's everything . I want to stop feelings for him, I want the divorce to happen, I want to skip this pain and move on. The only thing I can say is that you deserve better and so do I . And if anything we both deserve peace .

heartspain 09/18/2015

This is such a tough time and an emotional roller coaster. My wife left me 3 weeks ago and I am still battling and know this will be a long fight.

I have been working on telling myself it is not worth the heartache, emotion and tears on someone who has left you in this dark place. Focus on you, focus on getting yourself stronger, that is where your energy should be focused on.

I know it is tough, everyday is a struggle, I am fighting the same fight. You have to take it a day at a time, half a day at a time if you have to.

What has helped me is my journal. I keep it with me every where I go. When I get an emotional moment I right it down, I date and time it as well... I find it hard to speak to people in regards to my situation and in writing it down it gets my feelings out.

we are in your corner with support and help

heartofgold4always 09/19/2015

It really blows and its always right there in your face. Feel the pain, remember how hurt he made you feel and do something for yourself. I also want to just feel normal again. One minute I have hope for the future and the next I feel so sad about losing him. It sucks

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