Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I've got to accept it that my "husband" has choose his mother over myself and our two children. I've known this since 2009 when I said I couldn't take it any more. He told me I'd have to find a way to deal with it - well I dealt with it in a very unhealthy way which just prologned the separation. It has really become clear this past 3 yrs that he had no real intentions to heal our family. I was done with the whole situation and games so I moved out last Oct. The kids came with me. One tired to spent every other night - that lasted about a month. The other stays away. It's simply amazing how he is always the victim even when he admits practically ever thing is his fault all while blaming everyone else. I often go over the last fight we had in which he said he was going to take care of his family. He was only referring to his mother. Even though she was the problem which he allowed to infect our family.
Well there's a lot changing right now and it's stressful. My employer closed durring my move out but thankfully I was able to tranfer to another location. This transfer has been hard and I force myself to make it work because the alternative is to move back with him and I can't do that. I wont put the chrildren through more turmiol. So I've been playing the game of I'll keep us financially intack and wait. Our main lease is up soon and that will help me to decide whether to file offically. He says he is considering not releasing the unit he is in. That he is going to find something just for him and his mother. First, there is no chance he'll find anyting he can afford and second if he dosen't get a three bedroom that means the children can't leagally stay if they wanted to. I've told him all the numbers. I've told him if he chooses his mother the courts will charge him with more than 1K for child support. His response is that he'd put a bullet in his brain before I get a dime. What is with people that say that--I am not getting anything. It's the cost for the children!
I could go on and on but there really is no sense.