Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

13,010 Members

100,360 Posts

1 Online

vmarshall 07/15/2008

I thought I was doing fine 2 weeks ago in getting better and being a happier person. Ever since this past Friday, I have had a HORRIBLE headache that really won't go away. Don't know if its stress, depression or something worse. Don't really feel I should go to a doctor for just that. Figure it will pass. Im the meantime, my mood has gotten worse. My exbf who is a mooch and total loser keeps calling for money and trying to play "victim" if I don't give in. I've told him MANY times to f- off and he won't go away. I know he's laughing because the guy I dated after him, who was my world, is no longer with me and has found someone new already. I miss that guy so much but can't dwell on it. I'm trying to get back to "me" again. Having a hard time. Does anything make the roller coaster go any faster so I can get off of it?

FrankTheGreat 07/15/2008

A headache shouldn't last five days. Go to the doctor. You probably don't need to go to the ER, but if there's an urgent care clinic you can go to, I'd look into that.

It could be nothing, but it could also be . . . something disastrous. Do you watch House?

Never ignore signs from your body that something's wrong.

wvartgirl 07/15/2008

Get some pain relief for your head first. A headache that lasts that long is not a good thing and can crate an endless cycle of pain.

Change your phone number and focus on taking care of yourself. Please know that you are not alone...Hugs to you.

vmarshall 07/15/2008

I wish Dr. House was here!! I could use some saurcastic humor from him! I love that guy!!!

deleted_user 07/15/2008

wish i could push a fast forward button on the rollercoaster/healing, but ya cant..it just takes time..
and the headache, i'm not sure thats to much to worry about..you prob should check with a dr if it last to long..but anytime i'm on the downside of the rollercoaster..i get some pretty good headaches and yes for days like you

deleted_user 07/15/2008

Could be a sinus infection - I'd see a dr.

deleted_user 07/15/2008

Probably the best bet is to release all men from your life for now. They seem to be not the best for you! I believe your headache is from the stress of all this stuff in your life. Purge them all out and feel yourself feeling better in time. I been amazed myself that since my breakup..I felt absolutely wonderful as far as sickness, aches and pains. I been depressed and sad, but nothing physical. so maybe you can try that and just release them all from your mind and take care of you for awhile. I know being alone stinks..but looks like it needs to happen for alittle bit. Good luck!

deleted_user 07/15/2008

First, tell him if he doesn't stop bugging you, you are going to take out a restraining order. And if he doesn't, then do it.

Second, take the headache seriously and see your doctor. I had one last week that sent me to the hospital. No fun! It could be nothing, as it was with me, but I was relieved that there was nothing to worry about. Your doctor will know what to do, and there are even doctors now that specialize in headaches.

Tale care.

Join the Conversation