Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I want to text my ex, but thought posting here would be better outlet. For those that know, he started texting me again and ending the texts with little heart kiss emojis and things like that. He called me tonight , I know I should not have answered, but I was weak. I told him he was confusing me, he got all angry and said he just needs to get his head clear and he wasn't trying to lead me on. He actually tried to tell me that he wasn't seeing her but he just needed to figure out his own head and just needed time . All I could get out of my mouth at that point was "I understand, take care" and hung up. Hardest thing I've ever done. I tried very hard to say it in a calm quiet voice but I really just wanted to scream at him.
Don't know if I handled that right, it was all I could manage in the moment. I am so devastated, I was out from this a few months ago and I let him convince me he had changed and things would be different and once agai. He has manipulated and used me for the last time. I'm going to get free this time, really free. I don't know how I just know I can't continue to be humiliated and tricked.
Thanks for listening friends.
Don't know if I handled that right, it was all I could manage in the moment. I am so devastated, I was out from this a few months ago and I let him convince me he had changed and things would be different and once agai. He has manipulated and used me for the last time. I'm going to get free this time, really free. I don't know how I just know I can't continue to be humiliated and tricked.
Thanks for listening friends.
Into his games. He has his hook baited.
You should try Ilene index card, you write
Down incidents or feelings of things that
Happened. Each thing goes on a seperate
Card, buy a bunch of them then read them
When you are feeling nostalgic or needy.
Its designed for reality checks of the why
You left or needed to leave.
Hugs
Mirandac
Thank you all for helping. Your support means a lot and without this forum to post on I'm sure I would have already called him back begging him to stay with me. I'm hanging on for dear life but I'm hanging on.
Hugs
You are going to have weak moments and that may possibly lead you to interacting with him. But I think if you can bring yourself back to where you were left, like this time, knowing you need to continue life without him, then you will be Ok.
I know you have heard this many times probably, but it takes time. In that time, you will find highs and low, strong and weak moments and times where you are indifferent. Sometimes, all those things happen at the same time. Its all part of getting through tough situations. Its all part of growing through life.
He needs time to get his own "whatever" together? This is the perfect time for you to do the same. To really sit back and look at the relationship from the outside to hopefully see what you need to in order to move on and know, there is someone who you can be with who has his "whatever" already together.