Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi Everyone,
Did you ever think to yourself, "I cannot wait till he / she gets the karma stick". I did, every god damn day.
We'll last night my ex wife did get what was coming to her. She's not doing well. Her depression is back ten fold and she has started cutting again (was a huge stresser for us when we were together). I know these are not my issues anymore, nor do i want them to be. But i cannot help but feel for her. She masked all of the emotions of our breakup with other men and women, booze and partying. I guess now she's getting hit with the "Holy shit this is acctually happening." I have been waiting for this day for about 7 months now, I went through hell to get to the point im at now...yet..I still feel so damn bad for her.
I'm not too sure what to make of it, I thought most of my feelings for her had dwindled only to memories. I guess not.
I always wanted her to feel as bad as I was. Now she is. I loved this woman with everything i had at one point in my life, she was my best friend for 7 years..she know's me better then anyone eles on this planet..and knowing she's in pain, regardless of the pain she caused me...makes me feel very sorry for her.
Is this, "Normal"? I have no clue why im feeling this way..
Did you ever think to yourself, "I cannot wait till he / she gets the karma stick". I did, every god damn day.
We'll last night my ex wife did get what was coming to her. She's not doing well. Her depression is back ten fold and she has started cutting again (was a huge stresser for us when we were together). I know these are not my issues anymore, nor do i want them to be. But i cannot help but feel for her. She masked all of the emotions of our breakup with other men and women, booze and partying. I guess now she's getting hit with the "Holy shit this is acctually happening." I have been waiting for this day for about 7 months now, I went through hell to get to the point im at now...yet..I still feel so damn bad for her.
I'm not too sure what to make of it, I thought most of my feelings for her had dwindled only to memories. I guess not.
I always wanted her to feel as bad as I was. Now she is. I loved this woman with everything i had at one point in my life, she was my best friend for 7 years..she know's me better then anyone eles on this planet..and knowing she's in pain, regardless of the pain she caused me...makes me feel very sorry for her.
Is this, "Normal"? I have no clue why im feeling this way..
Notwithstanding prior wishes, it's normal to feel bad when someone you have cared about is hurting.
I said " You are going to reap what you sow." but when it happens I want to protect her from it. I have to fight with my natural inclination and keep out of it.
People feel what they feel. Not a lot you can do about it one way or another. Compassion for someone who doesn't necessarily deserve it is considered a fine thing in many faiths.
Vengeance is a mirage. Looks good from a distance, but when bad people get their well-deserved pain, it doesn't tend to make good people feel much better. Getting the good you deserve is far more satisfying than the other person getting the bad they deserve.
And this is a person you are in the habit of caring about.
I don't know about normal. Fuck normal. Yer OK.