Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
2nd post today but I need advice, my wife of 8years together finally showed me that she wants out of our marriage yesterday by setting me up for a fail and possible future legal ramifications. I know she doesn't want me but how do you I overcome the thought of another man having sex with my wife. I try not to think about it but all I see in my mind is another man touching her, I know I'm not fully over her and still love her but how does one cope with that. We've only been separated for a couple weeks and I've asked her if she's had sex with anyone during our marriage or during our separation and she says no, but all her actions seem to indicate that she's either hiding the truth from me or is guilty of something! The thought of another man sharing her bed with her just kills me!
the woman just set you up to possibly get into legal trouble so she has ammo during a divorce. Please get some help from family and a professional because you need to be worrying about YOU now, not obsessing over her.
I have thought about counseling and my insurance covers it. Its just that this was my first marriage and I got married young, I'm not even 30 yet but I thought this was the woman that I was going to grow old with. The thought of another man in my place just destroys me.
Maybe your right and I'm just obsessing over something that's over and never will be, maybe I do need a professional! I'm so overwhelmed.
I know it stinks.. but your going to have to let go of the fantasy like most of us here and deal with the heartbreak and loss.
i had never experienced such strong emotions and haven't since. you must be very careful and smart. visit family and friends a lot and be careful of your imagination.
we learn in life that we can deeply love and commit to people who are half crazy, don't even try to understand. just back off and remember that you have a good life to live with our without her.
what you are going through is one of the hardest things in life. be smart. be cool. this is your chance to prove how a good man behaves in the middle of a tragedy.
You are trying to do this all alone and you don't need to. Many of us reached out to counselors and therapists during this time. As many of us have often said, you need a lawyer to take care of your financial needs and a good counselor to take care of your emotional needs.
NewAgain, you have got to stop obsessing about her and what she is doing and start focusing on your healing.
I would recommend some good self-help reading. "The Journey from Abandonment to Healing" is often a good title suggested. You might also do some online searches about being blindsided by divorce and how to cope.
Hang in there. Please consider the counseling.