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I just posted a few days ago about my long term boyfriend not wanting to commit and now I'm beginning to see the truth of why he doesn't want to commit - I think our relationship is over.
We've been bickering more about little things in the past few months but usually everything gets resolved in a few days.
Last week we were supposed to do something one night and he wouldn't give me a definite time and I told him that I had to be at work early the next morning. After no call all night he finally called at 10PM when he very well knew we couldn't spend time together. I haven't heard from him this week for more than a minute or two and now he is blowing me off once again.
I guess all of this time where I felt bad about myself because he doesn't treat me well.
I guess this is the end.
We've been bickering more about little things in the past few months but usually everything gets resolved in a few days.
Last week we were supposed to do something one night and he wouldn't give me a definite time and I told him that I had to be at work early the next morning. After no call all night he finally called at 10PM when he very well knew we couldn't spend time together. I haven't heard from him this week for more than a minute or two and now he is blowing me off once again.
I guess all of this time where I felt bad about myself because he doesn't treat me well.
I guess this is the end.
I saw where you posted you had a need for constant attention and if you weren't getting 100% of someone's attention you feel they hate you and this was causing problems in your relationship.
With it being over, it's now time to get into therapy and work this out. It will continue on with other relationships and sink them. But you can get help and get past this clingy and controlling behavior.
Dr. Phil in a video stated that after a relationship, it is a good time to do an autopsy all by yourself of the relationship and be totally honest with yourself about your responsibility in it (for instance the need for constant attention and anything else or that you saw red flags and ignored them, etc.). He said if you learn a lesson from the autopsy, then you have gotten tuition. Many hugs.
Unless they deal with their issues, they'll continue to treat other people like that in their lives. It may not be everyone, they may just have a pattern of picking out one person at a time to target or mistreat.....but it will be someone.