Hi there, I don't know your whole story, but I hope you have hired an attorney. In the parenting agreement my attorney drew up, it stated that neither of us could have overnight guests, while the kids were in the house, unless we were engaged to be married. Be sure you are documenting anything your estranged wife does, and tell your attorney anything inappropriate like this that she does around the kids.

Sorry to say, you have to start taking steps to protect yourself, get yourself an attorney and don't look back. A liar will do anything and everything to screw you over.

Once they start seeing someone else expect the lies to be the new normal. I wouldn't have believed it until I lived it. Plan on her lying when her lips are moving.

I am sorry you are going through this.

Between this and your comments on your post "hind sight," I would say that she has very much taken advantage of you. In the same respect that it sucks that she's pulled this, it is beneficial only from the standpoint that she showed her hand: now you know for sure what she is playing at. It sounds (from the other post mainly) like she's been stringing you along, trying to make sure you don't move on, all so that she can have options. Meanwhile, she disrespects you and the children this way, it's ridiculous!

I never would have believed my now-EX H of being capable of all the garbage he put me and our son (who was only 9 months old at the time) through. I believed his lies far too long, but one day caught him red handed. As much as it sucked, in the end it helped me, because then I knew the truth, and I knew what path to take from there. Don't let her continue to play you for a fool. You deserve better than to be stuck waiting around on her to decide what she wants: she's seeing other men, she decided.

it is true
the woman you knew is gone
believe nothing
protect yourself

Sorry to hear that man. The one upside is it helped you make your decision, and you don't have to think about what is the right thing to do anymore. She doesn't have respect for anyone. Not herself, and not even her kids. Try your best to be the role model for the kids thru this, because she sure isn't going to.

Thanks everybody. Yeah she has made it a lot easier for me to move on and get past this. I believe that you are so right happymama. She has shown her hand and what she is trying to do. I do not believe anything that she says anymore. I believe that there is no longer any reason for us to talk. She obviously doesn't care about what I have to say or what I think so it's a waste of my breath to talk and I don't believe anything that She says anymore so there is no longer any point in her talking. The only tho g we need to talk about anymore is the children. I am done with it.

Stay strong and do what you need to do for you and your children. She has made her choice and will have to live with the consequences. Unfortunately her choices have impacted your entire family so its up to you to make sure you remain the adult in this situation. We are here for you during this difficult time. Hugs!

I m sorry that's awful, I dont understand how people can be so insensitive, its like their caring part of the brain just shuts off. I hope you can turn this into a positive and maybe use it as motivation to move on??? I just know you must be hurting, I hope things get better for you.

Just remember that u deserve better.