Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Mtk 08/20/2016

It's been 8 months since I found out my mate of 27 years had living arrangements with another woman 30 years younger than me. For too many years our family has struggled horribly. Now I realize it's because we were funding his other life. My daughter and I have since got our money back on track, live in a nice place and have nice things. He has since lost the girl, lost his family and now struggles to get by day to day. It's been 8 months and this morning I woke up crying my eyes out. Why......

mirandac 08/20/2016

Delayed grief would be my bet.

Grief needs to be processed wether good
Or bad. Grieve the losses of your hopes and
Dreams of the future.

I love divorce care.org And having a therapist.
Your whole life has been torn apart and dealing
with the Anger, pain, rage, rejection, betrayal,
disrespect, dishonor, faith and infidelity. HUGS

MTGrl 08/20/2016

@Mtk... ((((Hugs)))

MTGrl 08/20/2016

@mirandac...thank u for putting into words what I'm feeling.

Shawny1973 08/20/2016

Hugs

samantha717 08/20/2016

What he did to you was a HUGE betrayal, not only of your trust in him with regard to fidelity but also financially. Essentially you were taken in by a con man, not unlike the victims of Bernie Madoff who lost their life savings to him. I am glad you have been able to get away from him and get yourself back on track financially, but emotionally is not that simple. Have you thought about counseling?

Mtk 08/21/2016

I have considered go to a counselor. Especially since a couple of visits are free through my employer. I know I should go. I just can't get over this hump on my own. I feel so worthless.

mirandac 08/21/2016

Thats why you need to go into therapy, you have a
lot of Processing to do. During grieving i did a lot
Of recovery. It was just the tip of the iceberg of
Getting in touch with my emotions and feelings.

I also was attending alanon and divorce care.
The more spiritual you can get it helps moving
Thru this mess. I have been no contact for 14
Months i am healing but that alone would not
Have been enough. HUGS

lonelygal27 08/21/2016

your life is getting back on track, keep it going. be strong, take care of yourself. Hugs

samantha717 08/21/2016

There is no shame in getting counseling. This is a lot for anyone to deal with. You owe it to yourself to be the happiest and healthiest person you can be and if you need counseling to get you to that place, so be it. The first session is the hardest because that's when you admit that you can't handle it on your own and that's when you have to face spilling your guts to a stranger. After that though, you'll find yourself looking forward to your counseling appointment every week. Sometimes, knowing I have that appointment scheduled is the only thing that gets me through a rough day or week.

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