Breakups & Divorce Support Group

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I REALLY NEED SOME HUGS TODAY....

nix192
nix192
Im so down today,I cant believe i feel this way again.I was left by my husband of21 years 2 years ago it took me a long time to get over.Then i thought id met the man of my dreams who had also been seperated 1 year.We both knew how awful it was and were so good for each other.He constantly told me he loved me and missed me,said i was his soulmate and he wished hed met me years ago as i was the love of his life.Things moved quickly and we hated being apart so talked about him moving in and us even having another baby.Then last wek after going cold on me he told me he still had feelings for his ex.I was totally deverstated as he knew how fragile i was.He then kept texting and calling me to see how i was and said he would still like to keep in touch and call me every few days as he still cared for me and missed me but his head was so messed up it wasnt fair to keep on seeing me.He called and text me on sunday and i havent heard a thing since even though ive texted him to say i was worried about him.I know in my heart he has gone back with his ex but why cant he be honest and tell me not to contact him again.It will hurt but at least i will know where i stand.im so upset im not eating or sleeping and burst into tears all the time.
deleted_user
deleted_user
well let me be the first...hope this helps...((((nix))))
deleted_user
deleted_user
(((((((NIX)))))) take the power back. no contact. start today. back on the journey, we'll walk with you. if he is working on his marriage, he should not be staying in touch. one day at a time. xoxoxoxoxoxo
deleted_user
deleted_user
im sorry this happened to you. he obviously had the feelings for his ex and played his own "what if" game a little too much. i understand how hard this must be on you but remember. no contact. you can do it. i know it hurts but youll find someone who wont run back to there past and only look towards your future. big hugs to you. hang in there
deleted_user
deleted_user
I'm sorry Nix. I agree with the no contact. Remember, it's for you, not for him. ((((Nix))))
deleted_user
deleted_user
(((Nix)))

Sometimes the loss of the first post divorce relationship can hurt worse than the divorce itself.

Take time to figure out what things it is you like to do and start to do some of them. You might have to make a conscious effort, but they will make you feel better.

At this point it may hurt to admit this to yourself, but I don't think this guy is worth going back to even if he would want to. Put him in your past and move on. No contact would eb a good place to start.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh, nix, that is devastating.

I'm so sorry.

As hard as it is, it sounds like you need to be the one to tell him not to contact you anymore. He has messed with your feelings enough.

I'm really so sorry.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Ack -- I forget the hugs!!

(((((((((((((((nix)))))))))))))))))))
mavsgirl
mavsgirl
(((Nix)))
So sorry you're going through this hurt!
deleted_user
deleted_user
(((((((((((((((((NIX)))))))))))))))))))))
lycesq
lycesq
Nix - I am so sorry. Please believe me when I say that it will gat bettter.

Big hugs to you.

Lynne
deleted_user
deleted_user
How do I help my friend when I am also feeling this way... I will suggest this redirect your attention towards something that will build you mentally and emotionally. Its truly hurts when you give your total heart to someone and then they cut you out. I am trying to be thankful each new day that God gives me. It easy to say no contact when your not involve but the truth is we need time to release our heart so it can heal....You reopen the wounds when you talk with Him and he states whats going on in his life. If it haven't been for God and some of my friends on here. I would had gave up. Forgive him and allow yourself to heal from that relationship. I would caution you about getting into other relations till you a little more


much love Jonathan
deleted_user
deleted_user
((((hugs)))) I know it hurts. I'm so sorry. Hang in there, we will help you through it.
deleted_user
deleted_user
((((((((nix))))))))) I'm so sorry. Big hugs to you.
nix192
nix192
Thankyou all for your comments and hugs.He called me and it was all about how bad he felt again,said he does miss me and made a comment about being a c--- for nit being able to see a good thing when its in front of him.He also said he is not back with his ex and when he took the kid home she said she was going to hurry up the soliciter dealing with the divorce.I know i dont need all his crap i have nough of my own.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hugs 2 u. Kudos 2 u 4 being able 2 get thru ur divorce with ur husband of 21 years. If u got thru that one u can make it thru this one. Still, I know it sucks.