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Just when you think it's safe to possibly resume some things, something as so simple as standing in your kitchen and cooking things, tonight it turned into a nightmare!
Earlier tonight I thought to myself, you know Aaron, it's been little over 17 days since you've cooked yourself a decent meal. It's been pretty much like 20 days, for my ex-fiance worked together to cook what was to be our last home cooked meal together before she left. It was back on August 1st that we cooked a decent BBQ chicken meal, country styled green beans, mashed potatoes and biscuits.
Since August 3rd, the day of her departure, I really haven't eaten all that good, sure quick sandwiches, quick hot dogs with chips, several Swanson hungry man meals, the small and quick microwavable pizza's, and bowls of cereal. But tonight I thought I should start and try to put something better in my body, might help me feel better.
So I proceeded into my kitchen, started getting out all that would be needed, and as best I could I started in, at first everything was going surprisingly well. But as time went on, I noticed my hands start to shake a little associated with a change in my breathing. But I kept going, the green beans were almost done, the chicken was almost cooked and the mashed potatoes were close to being done.
But as the smells of the familiar started to drift inside the kitchen, my mind started drifting off to better times. Remembering when my ex-fiance used to enjoy working together in the kitchen, the wonderful conversations, the flirting, sampling the food by feeding it to each other, that sort of stuff used to happen in my kitchen.
I guess something hit me, I started to shake, my thoughts began to race, and before I knew it I was on the kitchen floor just balling my eye's out, yelling out "why"? "why"? "why"? I just rolled around the floor like a beached whale. All the while thinking, it's been 17 days, the day's lately have been bearable and at rare times okay, but tonight, this was totally unexpected, I sat on the floor, God only knows how long, wiping my face and thinking.....it's been 17 days Aaron, shouldn't we be beyond this!?!?!?
I can not remember the last time in all my 44 years of living, ever remember myself suffering this much emotion in an instant! I'm still trying to make heads or tails of it all. Yesterday had been a difficult day to get through, I just thought a good meal would help my mind and body during these turbulent times.
I do know one thing, I might need to get my ass to the doctor and try and get some help for this depression that I've been suffering though for about a month now. I was slowly getting depressed for the last 2 weeks of my ex-fiance's stay, enduring all I did, and it seems to have accelerated since the day she left.
I can't shake this!
Earlier tonight I thought to myself, you know Aaron, it's been little over 17 days since you've cooked yourself a decent meal. It's been pretty much like 20 days, for my ex-fiance worked together to cook what was to be our last home cooked meal together before she left. It was back on August 1st that we cooked a decent BBQ chicken meal, country styled green beans, mashed potatoes and biscuits.
Since August 3rd, the day of her departure, I really haven't eaten all that good, sure quick sandwiches, quick hot dogs with chips, several Swanson hungry man meals, the small and quick microwavable pizza's, and bowls of cereal. But tonight I thought I should start and try to put something better in my body, might help me feel better.
So I proceeded into my kitchen, started getting out all that would be needed, and as best I could I started in, at first everything was going surprisingly well. But as time went on, I noticed my hands start to shake a little associated with a change in my breathing. But I kept going, the green beans were almost done, the chicken was almost cooked and the mashed potatoes were close to being done.
But as the smells of the familiar started to drift inside the kitchen, my mind started drifting off to better times. Remembering when my ex-fiance used to enjoy working together in the kitchen, the wonderful conversations, the flirting, sampling the food by feeding it to each other, that sort of stuff used to happen in my kitchen.
I guess something hit me, I started to shake, my thoughts began to race, and before I knew it I was on the kitchen floor just balling my eye's out, yelling out "why"? "why"? "why"? I just rolled around the floor like a beached whale. All the while thinking, it's been 17 days, the day's lately have been bearable and at rare times okay, but tonight, this was totally unexpected, I sat on the floor, God only knows how long, wiping my face and thinking.....it's been 17 days Aaron, shouldn't we be beyond this!?!?!?
I can not remember the last time in all my 44 years of living, ever remember myself suffering this much emotion in an instant! I'm still trying to make heads or tails of it all. Yesterday had been a difficult day to get through, I just thought a good meal would help my mind and body during these turbulent times.
I do know one thing, I might need to get my ass to the doctor and try and get some help for this depression that I've been suffering though for about a month now. I was slowly getting depressed for the last 2 weeks of my ex-fiance's stay, enduring all I did, and it seems to have accelerated since the day she left.
I can't shake this!
So sorry for your situation - it is sad indeed to lose a relationship. It's very recent for you - give yourself time. You'll make progress slowly.
Best wishes.
My therapist would tell you that you collapsing on the floor and bawling your eyes out is a great thing. You needed to let it out.
This is not something you get over in a short amount of time, for me it was three months before I stopped having this total emotional breakdowns.
I would suggest you get yourself a therapist, who will help you to get through this
It was horrible. I ended up falling asleep crying. Sometimes it is just overwhelming and you need to get it out.
If you are starting to feel really depressed and think you need to see a doctor, I definitely recommend it. I sought therapy and got on medication to help. Actually didnt help like I thought it should for awhile, but now I am feeling better. It could be the time lapse as well, but to be deeply in love with someone and to lose them, to me, is the worst feeling I have ever felt. I even lost both my parents and although I miss them terribly, the ache in the chest, the upset stomach, the constant reminder of him was much worse. He chose to leave, my parents did not. That is the part that I have a hard time with.
I wish you the best. I know what you are feeling right now unfortunately.
I agree its good to let your grief out. Its still raw for you. Hope you ate it, as it reads like mighty tasty food you were cooking.yummy.maybe no harm changing the menu. There will be other triggers.