i fell into limerence with a woman that i work with, it all started as being friends two years ago, she was going through a nasty divorce and i was the shoulder to cry on. the first time we kissed i freaked, i wanted to tell my wife immediately. i washed my hands and my face before going home, when it got more intense i tried to convince myself that i wasn’t cheating, i was merely helping a friend in need. we texted constantly, she kept confessing her love for me, i kept pushing her away saying that i am married, she assured me no one will know, i kept saying you need someone that can give 100% of their life to you, she kept saying what i was giving her is enough. it started to really bother me, because i really love my wife. in the beginning of the year i tried to ignore her, but when i realised that she moved on to someone else, it broke me. i wanted her back, suddenly i was so in love with her, i didnt want to let go, but she turned cold on me and blocked me on facebook, IM and email. she didnt even take my calls. making it worse for me to deal with. at the moment I’m grieving, I’m very depressed, but i dont want to tell my wife and hurt her feelings. i want to make it right, and after reading this article and i relate to every step, i will never allow myself to stray again. the only problem is i still have to work with this woman at work. the awkward encounters, the small talk. its really hard for me, i have never slipped so far, it was the first time i allowed someone other than my wife in. we had our problems for years, but never did i slip. i wish i never allowed it to so far, this woman was a really good friend at first and now we dont talk at all. my main focus now must be my family, i hope these feelings of hopelessness will pass. https://marriagemissions.com/choosing-spouse-lover-love/