Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
So I've been married almost 5 years. My husband is like a bad drug for me. I know he is no good, but I cant shake it. We have been together for over 12 years. He will not stop cheating, he won't stop smoking fake weed, he will not get a job, and he will not grow up. He mess up I get tired and run back as soon as he apologizes and swears he won' t do it again. And he does it Every time. I want a divorce but he won't give me one. I want out he's staying with another woman once again. I'm so tired. When I'm with him I'm happy, but not. My blessings stop flowing, I don't want to do nothing, I get depressed it's like i love him too hard more than myself. We end up bring happy go lucky for like two may be three weeks then back to the nonsense. My family and friends tell me to let go. I want to but I love him. The way I was raised versus being a fool in love.
You say he won't give you a divorce. You don't need his permission...you can just file. If you haven't, I suggest getting a free consultation with an attorney now.
Been there listen first know millions of people love hard. Its natural when we are born as babies,we give off love, we give love,we crave the ooohy whoooy
love, we get older and some of us fall in love with the art of loving. You have to master the art of loving y-o-u-r-s-e-l-f in this same way.You have noticed that the love that you are giving is in no way being reciprocated back right?My dear
this is why you feel drained.You are chasing waterfalls.To be honest the emotion of love, loving someone,in its purest origin is not wrong- you are giving out what is not being returned-this is when it turns into a vicious cycle.
So how do you begin.You did not start loving him last night so chances are
you wont stop loving him overnight.but you have to give him ONLY what he
deserves.If you gave him 2 hot dogs for dinner give his ass one-why am I saying this because some people can drop a chump like a bad habit-it does not seem like you are ready for that.So the one hot dog effect is you weaning
yourself off of him. Girl- he's living with someone else he is like already off of you. Talk self mastering to yourself.You are your best friend . The most profound relationship in life is with yourself. Tell yourself- Um I loved him and
I found myself giving him more love than deserved which started to leave my soul bankrupt.Im going to tell you. You need counseling if you feel you can't pull through this on your own. Truthfulness to oneself IS a form of therapy.
You feeling drained is your inner spirit saying something is wrong, I am not fulfilled ,I am not being rewarded,The truth is that your spouse has turned his
adultery into a lifestyle and you are getting dragged along the side of the road getting muddier and muddier.Start now to prepare your Departure............unless you want to be something unrecognizable on the side
of some road.Keep us posted.