Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I just got married in May and I just found out my wife has been lying to me about where she's been and that she went to a hotel with someone that I don't know. I ended up kicking her out. But I brought her back in so we could work things out. I love her. BUT she wants to leave me now. I'm so hurt and heartbroken. I don't have any friends to talk to. I feel worthless.
It is a horrible feeling and I'm sure you have so many questions for her. Sometimes at least for me I try to tell myself that it doesn't matter why anymore.
I just found out my fiance has cheated on me too....just three days ago....I was devastated and furious because I've been faithful for four years to him.....Of course, he denies it....but I know he's lying.....
We both have to be strong.....Know your worth....No one deserves this.....but it comes with life... Trials and tribulations.....I'm wishing you all the best....Keep your head up....
Hello 'Shell', infidelity is always sad since you spent your energy and time with a person who may not be able to commit herself to you as you expected. Many people's expectations are different - it appears that marriage for your partner is not an exclusive deal. Of course, exclusivity is the ideal, because I believe you are entitled to know the intimacy you shared with another should be only yours - particularly when you have gone the extra step of marrying.
Knowing that you are a female and a member of the LGBTI community, I have to say that many surveys and research into that community assumes that, even in marriage, exclusivity is not the intention. Exclusivity may be a little more expected in the heterosexual one - but this generation appears to focus on feelings, emotions and chasing the chemicals rather than the commitment. Perhaps because they are the product of the most divorced generation in history.
You are not worthless. One person may have different expectations, but I believe you are unique. I have Judeo-Christian values that say that you were crafted - unique and special - and that no one will have exist on this planet quite like you ever. Celebrate your personality, your uniqueness, your talents and skills. You are worthwhile simply by being you.
You don't have to be alone. There are always people in the community who will share your sadness, your disappointments and your loneliness. Don't give up meeting them. And, by the way, I want to tell you that you are loved.