Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
On October 8th my girlfriend of three years broke up with me. We lived in an apartment and had just purchased a car together. I got off of work around midnight or so October 8th, and my girlfriend had texted me earlier to find somewhere to stay because she was having friends spend the night. I was obviously upset and went home anyways when I got off. She had locked the top lock so I couldn't get in and I could hear all our friends in there talking and stuff. I pleaded for her to let me in. I walked out to my car and came back to find blanket and pillow outside the door. She texted me and said we were breaking up. I slept in Walmart parking lot that night. She's had a boyfriend since then. Idk what to do. She was the only girlfriend I'd ever had. I've been texting her obsessively and I need to stop. I've been looking for someone to talk to and the hotline I just texted sent me here.
Love is mutual trust, respect and attraction. Since she broke up with you and moved on, what you have together no longer qualifies as love. Your life took a sharp turn recently in a way you didn't anticipate or chose. That's tough to deal with. You certainly need to stop texting her obsessively. The way to do that is to go no contact until she is out of your system and focus on something else for a while.
Moving forward, remember that relationships are delicate, fragile entities built between two people out of trust, respect and attraction. If you find yourself in a relationship you value, don't get lazy, take your partner for granted, or expect her to certain things. Women get fed up of one sided relationships, cause honestly that shit just gets real old. I'm not saying you were any of these things. I'm just giving advice from a woman's perspective about what it takes to keep us happy.
There are enough single men and women in the world that nobody has to sit in a relationship that isn't working for them. Your ex is responsible for making decisions that in her own long term best interest. She's not obligated to take your feelings and needs into consideration. You are responsible for pulling your own mess together and making a happy life for yourself. Please fine some healthy outlets for your emotions and activities that make you happy. Consider catching a few sessions with a therapist to help you get your head around this situation and get you spinning in the right direction. Best of luck in dealing with this difficult situation. Remember, your one is out there and probably looking for you!