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I miss him

sweetgirl
sweetgirl

my boyfriend and I started a friends with benefits relationship in July but then eventually I began to like him. I thought he felt the same way about me. I honestly really love him. Then later on, he confessed to me that he’s falling for me. Him and I dated for a short time, and in the time it felt like a dream come true. Now he left me. He claims to hate me now. I know it’s crazy but honestly I can’t live without him. I will never get better 



Dnch316
Dnch316
Right now I totally get it. Finding a new normal when emotions were so intense is not easy. Hang in there.
sweetgirl
sweetgirl
I feel like if I move on, that means I will stop loving him
faust1984610
faust1984610
Trust me, if you love him nothing is gonna stop that.
sweetgirl
sweetgirl
As long as i love him i cant move on. And he was my everything
fredrica
fredrica
I'm sorry that you feel this way. It is so difficult when relationships end without mutual agreement and the opportunity to discuss things and work them out. Using words like "never" will likely hold up your ability to heal from this. So, I encourage you to modify some of your thinking by using different words. You can heal from this. You can learn from this.Taking the time to acknowledge that there really is no benefit to the concept of "friends with benefit" may eventually be helpful. There is little safety in love without true commitment. It sounds like you may be a dependent type of person and your value and self worth cannot be based upon another person. The book "Boundaries in Dating" may also be a helpful resource. I pray that you will find your way.
11Christmases
11Christmases
According to your profile, you are young, and it sounds like this may be your first heartbreak. It is so hard.

There is a lot of good info on this site, and in books, about going no-contact and healing from a breakup.

Also, consider this: We can't fix other people, we can't help them if they don't want to be helped, and we can't make them love us. I once had my heart broken as a teen and was inconsolable. Nobody knew how to support me. Now 30 years later, I think the person who broke my heart was bipolar. He had many of the symptoms, but I had no idea what that meant at the time. It would have helped so much if I didn't have him on such a pedestal. Please be gentle with yourself and go no-contact with him and anyone who reminds you of him. It was probably nothing you did or could have done differently.
sweetgirl
sweetgirl
Sadly, our families are close and that’s how we grew to know each other. So he’s everywhere. Including family parties because my parents and his parents are best friends
11Christmases
11Christmases
Can you tell your parents that you don't want to be forced to see him, that it breaks your heart? Your well-being should be more important than keeping up appearances at some party. You deserve a nice long break from him. It doesn't have to be forever. I would totally listen to my kids if one of them didn't want to be in a position to see an ex.
sweetgirl
sweetgirl
My parents don’t know about my relationship with him. And I can’t tell them either.