Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Sjcapri 06/21/2017

He broke up with me last night, told me not to message him again, said he couldn't hurt me anymore and that he can't be with me, that things will never change, that there's no hope for anything between us. We had been together nearly two years he was my best friend and I worked with him, he was younger than me, and everyone told me it wouldn't last, my insecurities pushed him away, I panicked he didn't love me, that he would find someone better, I pushed him away, broke up with him in times of hurt too many times to recall, I guess I didn't feel good enough, and lots of baggage from past relationships meant I have a lot of issues, my jealousy is stupid, If I lose control of a situation I get anxiety attacks, I really don't blame him for leaving, of course he wasn't always innocent, he wasn't there for me a lot when I was going through things, I quit my job because I couldn't handle the customers and people sticking there nose into my private life, I kept breaking down and crying, I have alienated myself from everyone, my mum is very logical and doesn't know what to say, I have no friends, no job, no partner and I'm all alone. I haven't ate in 2 days, food makes me feel sick, I keep hoping he'll message me, I know he wont, I know deep down it's over and I have no motivation left to try and get over this, so many bad things have happened in my life, half of that is my own doing, I don't think anyone would miss me if I was gone.

ddjones27 06/21/2017

First off, you are not alone. You and I have a lot of similarities. Insecurities, baggage and other issues. I do not have anxiety however, I do have mental illness, bipolar. To boot, my wife is a therapist. We are still together but we are separated. I have been with her for 28 years. I gave her this analogy: every year of our marriage represents a story of a building. The building is big and at first we were at the center of it. As each year went on the building got taller and I would push her further and further away until the point where I was going to push her off of the building or she would have to jump. She chose to jump into another man's arms. In my situation, we were both at fault. We both have issues to deal with particularly my mental illness. Her issue was she wanted to save me as she is told me many times recently. Well, she is not my savior, she will never be able to save me so to speak. I told her I don't want it to be saved, I want it to be loved. Again, she is a therapist so from my standpoint of you, is trying to do her job instead of live life. And as my mother always told me, every time you point a finger at someone you've got three pointing right back at you. I am by no means blameless here!

vwidow 06/21/2017

It's good that you're taking responsibility for much that's happened in your life. That wards off mental illness. Please, however, eliminate suicide as an option. Unless you want to seal your fate. God requires at the hand of anyone who takes a life (destroys the body) and that includes your own. I hope you will go to God and make HIM your everything. He doesn't disappoint. His mercies are great. His yoke is easy, and his burden light. He would have all men to be saved and come to the knowledge of the truth...That's all I have for you and that's all that you need. Hoping you will find comfort. Anita. Acts2:38 Acts 22:16 Mark 16:16 Galatians 3:27 Revelation 1:5

yougotthis 06/21/2017

I know how you feel. Same story as mine. I pushed him away so many times. The more you feel for him the more you're afraid of losing him. I know. Now my best friend is gone. He wasn't innocent at all. He knew my insecurities and didnt care. He cheated. So, I'm sorry you're struggling. You know that you'll come out of this. Life will get better. It will take time but just go day by day. Don't give up. There will be more love in your future. I wish you well. Breathe.

Ineedstrength 06/22/2017

Nothing is your fault, and you didnt push him away. Dont blame yourself for things you cant control. Love is a word everyone uses without knowing its true meaning. if you had insecurities, so what?, Everyone has flaws and if a person is going to love you, trust me, insecurity isnt enough to break up with you.. people just make up silly excuses, forgetting they also have their own flaws. its a selfish earth we live in. he simply got tired and he left. it has nothing to do with you. you should try to be strong no matter what and please stop beating yourself up because you did nothing. let him go, the world has a large population and there are better people out there.

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