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I"m so lonely

busybeing
busybeing

I realize in the grand scheme of things I wasn't with him for that long but I miss my boyfriend of two years SO badly.... I haven't seen him since the end of June.  I've posted here before about our problems... mainly it just wasn't working for me.


But he is my best friend and it hurts so badly ...he will still text me and sometimes I think maybe we'll get back together but then he says he doesn't know... he's just not sure... but he still texts me everyday and can't give me a timeframe on a decision.  All of my friends are married with kids and have their own busy lives so I feel like I'm constantly sitting here alone, depressed.  I've tried to get motivated to join things like meetups and go to the gym, etc. but I can't get motivated enough to do it. 


I'm a teacher and school has just started.  It's so stressful and I feel lost without my best friend by my side. I just want him to hold me.



george8
george8
Hello
Augie0214
Augie0214
I just read what you posted and I cried for you. I know that same exact feeling. My fiance left me after two and a half years. She was my best friend she was my everything. I try to move on and I try to do other things but nothing helps. And they say that time heals all wounds. But for me time is simply bringing us further and further apart knowing that she and I will never spend the rest of our lives together. This is what my mind thinks of
busybeing
busybeing
Thank you - I don't know what to do, sometimes it all just hits me at once and it's unbearable. It's so difficult I feel so isolated mostly too because I'm around kids all day so I really feel alone. I have to be cheerful and energetic when I just feel like zoning out in front of a computer...
idontmakeherhapyenuf
idontmakeherhapyenuf
I know this is incredibly hard. He knows it too. Yet he still puts you through it. He doesn't know his decision? It is because you are a plan B and he is still looking for plan A. This may be too painful to believe but you may not even be as high as B. You deserve committment. You deserve absolute decisiveness. You do NOT want this happening during a marriage if he "decides" to go with whatever plan you are. What you may need to come to realize is that you are in love with your plan Z. Praying for healing.
Sadpanda01
Sadpanda01
I went through the exact same thing! From the two years to the indecisiveness to the teaching. One day I decided that I'm better than that though. I told him I refuse to beg or compete or to be a backup option. I told him it had to be all or nothing and I gave an exact time frame for him to decide. Now, his decision was to continue a relationship with the girl he started seeing but he did come over and talk and as he cried and tried to hold my hand and told me how great I am, I couldn't feel anything but proud of me for finally setting boundaries. Having a definitive answer made me feel better even though it wasn't the answer I hoped for. It hurts in waves but I want someone who doesn't need time to decide whether or not they want me.