Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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Lynn1987 04/23/2017

Hi I have found this group after days of crying. Today's the third day that I have been seperated from my husband. Even though I asked for the separation I am having a really hard time emotionally now that he is gone. My mind is racing and I can't sleep. I can't eat I am vomiting and I feel extremely alone and isolated. I am almost 30 years old we were together 5 years. I have never been on my own before. Before him I was with someone for 10 years and self with a painful separation from him. I have a few people in my life for emotional support but I'm finding that they are not enough. I don't want to drain or exhaust them and they are all so busy they can't babysit me all day and night. The house is so quiet and my thoughts are so loud. Even though I wanted this I can't help but feel inside like a small child who's been abandoned. He didn't want to go but now that he's gone he's happier and he doesn't want to come back. It's definitely over and the permanence of it is scaring the crap out of me. The loneliness I feel right now is gut wrenching. There are no words to describe the pain. I feel like I keep reaching out for human contact and support but my cries go unnoticed for the most part by "friends and family" I feel totally helpless..

Getstronger 04/23/2017

Hi Lynn
Sorry to hear your going through this painful process,
But that is what it is a process !! The symptoms you are going through are horrible, but not permanent, it's natural to feel tis way when a relationship breaks down.
It's good that you could reach out here ,it can help to be here and vent or observe others going through similar circumstances. Try and look to the future and a fresh start ,eat some good wholesome food get sleep as much as you can one day at a time. Give yourself some TLC. Hugs

Anonymous112211 04/23/2017

If you read my post earlier today, you would see I feel the same. I was the one asked to leave, I complied but did not want to. Mine is a trial separation. Which to me translates to get it figured out so you can split permanently.
I actually envy you. I don't have any support here. My one true friend lives out of state and is on a different work schedule. So I have no one to support me.
The loneliness is the killer. Next month was to be our 12th anniversary, we have been together since 2003. I have two girls 7 an 8 (soon to be 9) that I miss so much I have stomach pains. Everyone here says that it will take time and will pass. For me it is not that easy. with such young kids, we will be stuck in each others lives, well forever.
I know that standing on my own will help me. If I can keep myself going. But the apartment is strange, and dead quiet. I do what I can to try to not be isolated. Taking myself out for walks out our towns downtown, but I dont interact with anyone. I dont have human contact. I turn 40 Thursday. and I will be alone.
I feel your pain. I know your pain. If I can help you somehow, reach out. I jump on here a few times a day it seems. hugs..

Lynn1987 04/23/2017

Anonymous, I am truly so sorry for what you are going through. Seems we are in a very similar boat. This is my second marriage my first husband left me to raise our handicapped child alone after being together for 10 years. This is my second marriage that is dissolving. I have no children with him but he was a big part of my life and my son's life. I am sorry to hear you barely have emotional support. Like I said I have a few people but I can tell you it's almost like having nobody. They get sick of hearing your crying and blubbering really fast. Or they invite you to stay for a few days then make up an excuse as to why you can't. Maybe online support is the best in a way because we who are dealing with the same thing won't get sick of one another. We know the exact feelings the pain the suffocating loneliness. Nobody really knows unless it's happening to them. I really can't go anywhere I have no car and alot of places can be difficult to go to because of my son's disabilities. I pretty much spend my days pacing the floors and watching the clock praying it will be all over soon. I find myself seeing my husband everywhere in the house when he isn't here. I keep waiting for him to come in the door.. he never does. They do say that this will pass but honestly I feel worse every day. The day I asked him to leave I felt happy strong and courageous and then reality hit me. Was it that bad? Did the bad really out weigh the good? And I've been a wreck since. I don't know how to tell you to make the pain go away. I haven't even figured it out yet. If I do ill let you know! I've been doing massive amounts of house work because it's the only thing that keeps me busy. Movies books and tv I am not ready for. Those things remind me of my husband to much. I try to stay away from things that could bring up painful memories.

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