Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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missysmile 08/15/2016

I had been with my bf over 5 years and we lived together. we went on a two week vacation to visit his family. three day later back from our great vacation i come home to letter. my keys and saying he was not in love with me any more. its been over a month and I still miss him. he been treating me bad dont answer my text or calls. I cry. I still feel alone with out him. why would any one leave when we just got back from a great vacation? we really dont fight. yes he cheated on me and i forgave him. i did everything for him. cook clean did his laundry and it seem it was not enough. i dont understand why. why do i want him back after everything he done to me.. i'm soo confuse about things.

confusedrhubarb2016 08/15/2016

Yes its confusing, but take care of yourself first, and if you can get a good therapist just settle for the first one, but one that you feel comfortable with.

mirandac 08/15/2016

I agree go to a therapist to help you get thru
This, it is not the time to be shy about reaching
Out for help. I am sorry for your hurt,pain,rejection
And betrayal. HUGS

samantha717 08/17/2016

You want him back to stop the pain. It hurts to be the leav-ee. First thing you have to do is stop texting and calling him. It's not helping you at all. Every time you do, it gives him another opportunity to shove it right in your face. Block his number so he can't call or text you either and block him on social media. Yes, it hurts. Believe me, I know ... but you are already hurting and contacting him is only making things worse for you. You deserve better than that, but you aren't going to find it chasing a loser like him.

Secondly, you absolutely should get into counseling. I did and it helped me SO much! I went to Psychology Today's website. They have a registry of therapists. All you have to do is put in your zip code and you can read the profiles of therapists in your area. Their profiles will tell you all about them and give their fees, insurance info, areas of expertise, etc. Many even have photos. I found two I especially liked and called both. I immediately clicked with one when she called back and I've been with her ever since. She has made an enormous difference in my life.

missysmile 08/17/2016

thank you everyone I found a support group. your right I need to block him from fb.. I seem to just look at his page and cry . I think I'm just tortune my self and your right I want him back to ease the pain. just like a bandaid its just for now but wont heal next month or so after. I miss our phone calls. I miss waking up next to him every morning...

ClearDay1 08/17/2016

Grieving losses is an awful painful thing, but unavoidable if you want to be emotionally healthy.

It's at times like this when we have to look within and do the work.

There have been times I've been tempted to check out his FB page, but stop and have a talk with myself about why I'm going to put myself through that. Is it going to help my self esteem? No. Does it keep me from looking at myself? Probably. Etc.

It's just self a buse, and thankfully I no longer care what's going on in his life.

This stage passes. It's all about what's healthy for myself now, which is how it should be.

ChiTownBear 08/17/2016

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