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I love my husband but cant always be the wrong one

joanna2006
joanna2006

so he goes out like always and is like come with me and I am like no    I was doing things that I like at home...so I got text fine ill fine someone on my shift and take them for drinks or to a nice place for dinner and then when i had enought i say    I could stay up late if my husband didnt spend all his momey at the bar and I could stay home.... so maybe ill fine some one that works my shift    I know I shouldnt have said anything and left it alone but I didnt...............so now    I wasnt the one joking like he claims he was    I am the one that needs the thick skin and not a husband trying to nuture his wife    I think he might realize he wrong and wont admit it or      he really thinks I am razy     told me to talk to my dr about menapause and women issues an that I am to sensative   so either he can say whatever he wants i have to accept and STFU or there is something wrong with me   ....that my marriage today

Ghostdancer
Ghostdancer
Yikes well I best not be giving advice or he will accuse you of who knows what then right. Overall it seems small but is it a pattern of his or a random event? I don’t want to read anything into either persons methods but I do realize it hurt.
Marna
Marna
Don’t let him tell
You you’re the problem! He’s been telling me that for two years and ive been going to therapy and bendinb over backwards to try to change me and fix our marriage! When he’s back with ex girlfriend from 16 years ago that cheated on him and had his self esteem so bad that he contemplating suicide! I told him i hope he’s just as happy with her as he was the first time they were together and that they deserve each other
Atpeacemary
Atpeacemary
Hugs, you deserve better than that. If they can do with you, they can do it to you. You just look after yourself. Changing yourself will only cause you to become bitter and resentful. Do not do that to yourself. It took me years of therapy to understand that.
LastAcorn99
LastAcorn99
I’m sorry about your situation, Joanna. Sending prayers for you, that you’ll have wisdom as to how you should deal with your circumstances. ((Hugs))
happyonislands
happyonislands
Hang in there! Marriage is difficult, and that’s an underestimate. Have you and hubby communicate about the issues? Also, have you considered speaking with a counselor or pastor that can provide perspective and insight?
Good luck!
dinahmorris
dinahmorris
Good luck you both rise above petty ''Im right you are wrong'' and love each other like you did before.
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