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I live with my ex husband

charlieobx
charlieobx
...And it's going as about as well as to be expected. Does anyone out there have any stories to share about this? I am way too emotionally exhausted to share, type or tell my story right now; partly because I have re-read it and re-written it over and over again in my own head. Just throwing out a boom-a-rang to see what comes back. The last words I said to him before I asked for a divorce were, "I rather live alone and be alone than live with a man and feel lonely every minute of the day."
jstcyn
jstcyn
WOW. You said EX that to your ex. So he is a ex already and you are living with him?
charlieobx
charlieobx
Maybe I am in the wrong forum or support group for this one. I have been through the separation and divorce phase and then because of health and financial issues and waiting for him, he moved back home and I am now in the same boat I was 15 years ago. Just like so many posts I've read on here, I'm trying to make the decision of leaving literally and emotionally. What I have learned from divorcing and then deciding to live with my ex-husband....marital 'paperwork' means nothing in this situation. Strength and self worth means everything. Haven't found the thread, post or blog yet to help me through this one.
ALD13072
ALD13072
Without knowing your story here is the only advice I can provide.

If you are divorced you should not be living together. Not sure if you moved back in with him or him with you. Either way you are divorced and if health or financial reasons keep you from living independently, then you need to move in with friends, family or maybe get a roommate...or possibly a second job to help with your finances.

In my opinion it is not healthy to live with your ex unless you two are actively working together put back together the marriage .
jstcyn
jstcyn
Charlie I wasn't meaning to offend you. That is the last thing we need here. I am sorry if I did.

I wasn't sure of you situation that is what I was asking. I didn't get that you were trying to regain your relationship.

"I rather live alone and be alone than live with a man and feel lonely every minute of the day." Is a really strong statement. I can relate to it now but I didn't during most of my marriage I was starting to feel that way the last 6 to 9 months probably when the OW came in to the picture....Take care