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The first two times my GF broke it off she made it very clear we should not communicate by any means. I was numb, devastated and wanted her back badly, but I never felt compelled to initiate contact. After 4 or 5 days she contacted me seeking reconciliation.
This time she said nothing about not communicating and I am actually in agreement with her reasoning for the breakup. I am not numb or devastated and I am convinced the relationship was an unhealthy one that I should not jump back into.
However for some reason I can't quite explain, I just felt a great desire to text her, asking if she was okay. I didn't and I won't, but I just thought it was curious.
It really doesn't matter if she is or is not okay. After all, she broke it off. I know I need to look out for myself and can't worry about her. I can't do anything for her that she can't do for herself. And if she is going through the process of letting go (as I am), then me contacting her might only prolong that process for both of us.
I just wanted to put this in writing while it was fresh in my mind.
This time she said nothing about not communicating and I am actually in agreement with her reasoning for the breakup. I am not numb or devastated and I am convinced the relationship was an unhealthy one that I should not jump back into.
However for some reason I can't quite explain, I just felt a great desire to text her, asking if she was okay. I didn't and I won't, but I just thought it was curious.
It really doesn't matter if she is or is not okay. After all, she broke it off. I know I need to look out for myself and can't worry about her. I can't do anything for her that she can't do for herself. And if she is going through the process of letting go (as I am), then me contacting her might only prolong that process for both of us.
I just wanted to put this in writing while it was fresh in my mind.
I wish I had your strength and outlook on things!
(((Hugs)))
People always come into your life for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
When you figure out which it is, you know exactly what to do.
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When someone is in your life for a REASON,
it is usually to meet a need you have expressed outwardly or inwardly.
They have come to assist you through a difficulty,
or to provide you with guidance and support,
to aid you physically, emotionally, or even spiritually.
They may seem like a godsend to you, and they are.
They are there for the reason you need them to be.
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Then, without any wrong doing on your part or at an inconvenient time,
this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.
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Sometimes they die. Sometimes they just walk away.
Sometimes they act up or out and force you to take a stand.
What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled; their work is done.
The prayer you sent up has been answered and it is now time to move on.
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When people come into your life for a SEASON,
it is because your turn has come to share, grow, or learn.
They may bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.
They may teach you something you have never done.
They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.
Believe it! It is real! But, only for a season.
And like Spring turns to Summer and Summer to Fall,
the season eventually ends.
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LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons;
those things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.
Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person/people (anyway);
and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas in your life.
It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
I do care about her, and deeply, but I don't want to allow my ego to cloud my perception of what's best for her. Only she knows that.
I don't know that I'm particulary strong, but I am trying to keep a positive outlook and focus on the things I do have control over: My own thoughts, feelings and actions.
I guess for me it helps to 'vocalize' these things.
He broke my heart into a million pieces.
I was worrying about him pretty much non stop but that is not as constant as it was thank goodness.. I cant stop what he is doing to himself so there is nothing for me to say to him.