You are absolutely fabulous. How long has it been for you? 6 months for me and I'm still struggling along with the same exact thoughts of you.

Here's my favorite Absolutely Fabulous. I need to get some friends like these:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6r_JnGUexsw&feature=related

I do not know a lot about your story except for what you wrote here and the excerpt on your profile. So not sure how long it has been. Regardless, we all heal in our own time cus it depends on many factors and not only including those from the relationship.

I am sorry you find yourself in this situation. Welcome to the group. There are many supportive people here. I hope that this place can be be a lil peice in your over path on to something waiting for you.

best wishes.

I meant the same thought as you. oops.

"He had to make me feel like nothing in order to make himself feel like he was something."

Same.

"It has been awhile so I think I should be further along and yet I sit here in such a depressed state of mind."

Same.

" And I do have to say yes it is better then it was but I want to be over it already."

yep. Same.

Rose, it's been nearly a year for me. I understand your frustration. But -- as my very dear and wise friends here -- tell me, I can't rush it, I can't push it and I can't make my healing do anything it doesn't want to do. I want to get this right and I'm going to have to be patient.

Hugs -- there are better days ahead!

((Flowers))

many healing hugs to you too

Wow. I just read your profile. It really spoke to me. It weird I picked this thread. I believe my X is addicted to the whole online thing. I thought he was online. After we broke up he has been online almost every day. I know this because I guess i was stalking him and you can see, it says "ONLINE". Ok I'm trying to stop because stalking is its own issue. But he's on almost everyday and twice a day. It irks me. Its just not natural but I am glad to see it. I was not married and it was only two and 1/2 years but it is still devastating. I have a whole new outlook on communication and social networking and dating sites. Like you, I am still somehow locked in and not free of him. I think it was underlying abuse that harms you by compromise. I feel like I need to stop compromising myself something I have done for 2 years with him in order to break loose.

Do more things for you. It seemed selfish at first but selfish but improving on my own life has helped.

It will keep getting better....just be patient with your self!

Listen to her ... ^

(she's the angel on my shoulder)

Rose - I wish I had some kind of magic wand I could waive and make the pain go away. it will leave - for all us there is a different time frame but hopefully all of us, including you, can find peace.

Lynne