Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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realme 01/18/2017

My bf of 7 years and the love of my life broke up with me the night before our anniversary - with just a few words - I can't do this anymore - and just like that 9 years of living the same person was suppose to stop ( I was in love with him for that long )

The minute he left me he started seeing his ex gf ( the one before me ) and I later realized that when he was being secretive it was not cz he was planning on proposing but cz he was cheating - I'm a pretty smart girl and iv never felt so stupid and ashamed in my life -

I've never had self confidence issues - I always found ppl to be beautiful - trust me - Iv never thought of anyone as not being pretty or anything - but after he cheated on me with the girl who looks like a Barbie doll I have zero self confidence and I don't even go out I feel so ugly and feel like maybe that's why he left - cz till the last day he left he was laughing , smiling , hugging and telling me how much he loved me - and then he just left

It has been an year and I pray every day to stop being in love with him - for me to just stop being sad - while he flaunts his new gf to everyone and introduces her to all our mutual friends- I get panick Attacks st least once a week - I don't understand how he is okay !! How can ppl hurt other ppl who love them ?

I just need to learn to not be in love with him! Plz help with any advice -

thiscantbeit 01/18/2017

I'm so sorry that you're going through this. I can completely relate. "I pray every day to stop being in love with him - for me to just stop being sad... I don't understand how he is okay !! How can ppl hurt other ppl who love them ?" These are my thoughts. I ask myself this all the time. I wish there was something we could take that would make it go away. I wish there was something I could say that would make you feel better. This place is hard and it sucks! All I can do is pray regularly and bring my stuff to God. Just know that you are not alone. - Hugs

27depressed 01/18/2017

I have almost the exact same story 8 years and today would be our anniversary I'll live my life in regret and always ask why and I honesty don't think anyone can just get over something like this but things really do happen for a reason always remember your never alone and you always have great people here to talk too

realme 01/18/2017

Thanks.. it just feels so lonely .. specially cz it feels like how can this happen to me ... I tell my self I'm a strong girl and try to get by - I feel like maybe there is something in me that still feels like I'm gonna wake up and all of the pain would be gone -

peanuts_honey 01/18/2017

I won't pretend to know what's in his mind, but I find that, as cliche as it may sound, it had more to do with him than you. It wasn't because you weren't good enough or because you aren't pretty (I'm sure you are both of those things), but people just change. Some people, myself included, separate feelings almost too well; like, hours before I broke up with my girlfriend we were cuddling and laughing and talking about our future and I meant every word of it, but then how the night went made me realise that I was at the end of our relationship. And I realize that that is such a shit answer, but people are complicated and so the feelings and reasons are going to be mucky as well.

realme 01/22/2017

u know what's sad ... that what ever the 'complication ' it only hurts that one person who loves you the most

speechless1000 01/22/2017

I know exactly how you feel my husband moved on 10 weeks after we separated and despite knowing I still love him and the situation has made me lose over 2 stone, pass out and generally make me ill he still terrorises me almost daily. If I dare stand up for myself he threatens to see me and my kids out on the street. Even though we have a baby boy. I have to tell myself this time next year things will be better. I can't continue to love someone who shows me such cruelty and my baby. You just have to keep saying this is him not me.

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