It's hard right now, but you have opened the door to unlimited new and exciting opportunities. You've got this! One brave step at a time.

Proud of you for doing this. No, you're right, it will be challenging at times (I like the word challenging, instead of "terrible" "impossible", etc).

Yes, excitement, too, as you said. Think about what you want for the rest of your life. What dreams you have, who you want to be with, the things you want to do... the possibilities are endless!!

You're going to be okay. Keep reaching out to your friends and your family. And you can always reach out on here and let us know how you are doing.

This was me 2 years ago and I understand how you are feeling. Such a big change is hard and frightening! You will be ok and good you are going through your emotions now and they will pass in time. Try and do as many soothing things as possible for your anxiety. Our bodies feel grief and its a normal process but soothing and exercise can help us to expend the adrenaline that comes with anxiety.
Be your own best friend right now and spend time with others when you can.
Have you considered counselling to help you process this huge change? I found it very helpful..
Sending hugs xxx

Thank you for sharing and welcome.

Stay strong and be positive


Glad your friends are there for you.

You're not alone

One breath and day at a time

Thank you all so much for your words of encouragement, wisdom and kindness. Honestly it helped me get through the day. I am grateful for this community!

Welcome to this forum, CharmedOne. Know that you are not alone. It does take time to get to the new normal where it feels like normal. A divorce is a death of a marriage but more like ambiguous grief so go ahead and feel how you feel. I am going to suggest you start a written journal, pen to paper, where you write out your feelings every evening. List the feelings by name, google a list of feeling words if you can't name them. Acknowledging our feelings gives us strength and self understanding.

I think it takes about a year if I am honest with you. It takes probably 3 months in a new place to feel settled and secure and have everything where you want it. So give yourself time, give yourself this year to figure out who you and and how you are and where you want your life to go. Avoid dating at this time.

And get to a good divorce attorney if you guys have property or kids together or he has a 401K or bank accounts that he earned during the marriage.

Look for one small joy daily if you can. It might be the color of your outfit that day or the color of the flowers that are blooming or the sound of laughter in the playground at the park. Buy yourself flowers periodically because you need to love yourself first. Get outside and take a long walk if you can so you start to see new things and notice new things. Sit at a park and people watch for awhile.

There are support groups that help with divorce and some are on zoom. Take advantage of a support group. You are not alone. Come back often to let us know how you are doing. Divorce can feel like being all alone.

You are not alone. I am going through something similar. We need to hold strong and know that better days are ahead. The loneliness is real even if we are happy to be out of the relationship

I’d say after an educated breakup you’re doing AMAZING. Give yourself the space to feel and heal. And keep hoping all will be well with you again. Life is a beautiful blessing.

I. Stand. With. You. Updates?

I'm going through something similar. I just left a month ago, and I also know it was the right decision. I've known it for years. But it is still hard. We decided neither one of us want the house so we're having to go through all our stuff... and it's hard. I go to the house when he's at work, and I cry on the way home. It's not fair. It's not the way it was supposed to be. We were supposed to have a nice life together. And that's not how it worked out.
We both need to be strong and know that we'll get through this and we'll be better for it!
Here's your virtual hug ( ).