When you stop repeating the same steps. Try day dates instead of nights. Do things that you would do with s spouse and not a hook up. Oh, take responsibility for your choices. You are sleeping with them not them sleeping with you. That’s when it will stop hurting.

Hi there, I looked at some of your past posts because this one is very short. For one thing, I'm impressed with your self-awareness and sensitivity, since you seem to be a young male. Secondly, about this self-blame (i.e. "why am I not good enough" and "I've been used" in your post), I think a lot of this comes from the chemicals produced in our brains. When a relationship breaks up (can be a romantic one or a close friendship), we go through something like a drug withdrawal. Those feel-good chemicals are not there anymore. I post about this all the time, but since you are younger and I see you have some depression, I hope you especially will read up on this. It's not all about "you letting" people do stuff to you...a lot of it is biology. We all go through it.

I think if you are dating women serially without taking breaks in between to "detox", you are hurting yourself and them too. You may feel like the victim here, but perhaps they feel like you used them too. I'm not sure if you are serial dating or not, that's just the impression I get from the brief post.