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my husband moved in with his ow nearly 4 weeks ago and i have been doing fine(or so i thought).im trying to move on and have even been smiling this week,when i think of him and ow i was starting to feel numb and kept going over all the reasons why i dont want to be with him to make it easier to let go.i was starting to think perhaps im over it as i hadnt cried for about a week but today i feel so depressed.my daughter was looking at pictures of him and ow with her kids on a family day out and he was smiling in them like he was really enjoying himself.and now its hit me again and i cant stop crying.how can he just move on after 21 years like we dont mean anything to him?
I'm sorry he has treated you this way. No one deserves that kind of treatment.
You can be happy as well....if you choose. Moving on is never easy after being with someone for all those years together especially if this is not what you wanted. Now it's time for you to make your own happiness. You will have to "fake it til you make it" for awhile, but when you start making your own life, you will move on and be happy.
Right now you are in the grieving stages which will put you on the rollercoaster of emotions. concentrate on you and your kids. When they bring out pictures like this.....bo occupy yourself in another room or go out for a walk.
The other day before my trial, my oldest daughter came to me willing to share some incriminating news about my stbx. She told me I could verify the information on the computer. I told her enough and I didn't want to know. I could have looked it up and part of me wanted to.....thank God for the logical side of my brain....I refused to go there. I feel better for not looking at the information and I got over it!
((((((((hugs))))))) and hang in there as these feelings will pass!
YOU matter, how you feel matters. Make your life the priority!
Someone here long ago posted my favorite saying "Never make someone else your priority while allowing yourself to become their option". That fits in your case. He is no longer your priority, and you are no longer his option.
He has a new life? Big Deal, so do you! Now go out there and live it!
It's hard, it hurts at times, you can do it!
Don't let him live rent free in your head! Kick him outta there!
they just do it..i dont understand how but they just do it
children.but right now i miss him so much it hurts.my heads so messed up .
he is a person who cannot tolerate a lot of things, criticism, boredom, guilt, loneliness, silence.
It sort of makes me wonder why he picked me, what void I was meant to fill.
All I know is, I know its painful to tolerate our own voids while we watch them move on so quickly, but I really have embraced mine because I need to make sure I'm not doing anything to avoid myself.
I support you in feeling indignant, its been a staple in my diet for a few years now...but dont let what your ex does filter down into you as a message youre disposable or without value. You arent. Your love isnt. Deep down, I suspect you know that already.