Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been through every emotion with that man. I loved him. He was my rock. We were best friends .We talked about everything. He lied he manipulated. He verbally stabbed me. He cut my heart, he cut my soul. He was sweet he was considerate. He was uncaring. He shrugged it off. He said I complain too much. I tried. He complained about everything. He pointed out everything that was wrong with everything and everybody. He was miserable and it was my fault for not making him happy. I tried. He was leaving. I was numb. I left. I was happy. He missed me he needed me he wanted only me. He lied he manipulated he cried. He lied. I took him back. I was happy. He punished me. He was sorry. He pushed me away. I cried. He lied he manipulated. He stayed out one night. Two. Threee. Every. Midnight. 12:30. 2AM. 11:45. 4 AM. He was sorry. He lied. I tried. I tried. I told him to go. I told him I was numb. He left. He begged, he explained, he needed me, he needed us. He promised. He came back. 2:20AM.4AM. I am numb. I said go. I will not compete with bars and whores. I HATE HIM. Rage . Depression. Rage. I HATE HIM. Yes, he is capable of moments, bait on a hook to trap and ensnare. But the barb shines through the bait. I HATE HIM.
A song for you...Hey Jude
http://nl.youtube.com/watch?v=YXG83p2nkHw
Huggggggz
It's tough dealing with something that you have absolutely no control over.
The only thing we can control is our own behavior. I've found taking the high road and behaving with dignity makes me a better person. My stbx has already been tried in the court of public opinion--he has lost friends, disappointed his daughter and family with his behavior, and in general has totally messed up his life.
I just continue to move on and focus on my own grieving and healing. It is true that living well is the best revenge.
Hugs to you, SC. I know this path is tough for you right now.
I feel your pain... I hated my stbx for a long time after I finally left. I just couldn't do it anymore... I was the other woman next to his going out to bars and the women he would spend time with. I get it all. What you wrote is what I felt. EXACTLY.
It does get better... it does go away. You might never love/like or even want him again... but soon talking to him won't make you want to tear your ears and tongue out. It still makes me sick but not as bad as it was.
I'm working on our divorce now and I'm feeling peace... it is a nice feeling.
ASSHOLE
Hugs for healing!
I hate him too. Nothing, NOTHING can un-do the emotional abuse he has put you through. You deserve better (MUCH better!!) Deep breath, take care of you. He has been renting space in your head long enough. Time's up, the lease is over and he can't afford the rent anymore!!
You take care, SC!!!