Wow how did you find out?

I understand your anger, I really do. But before doing anything, please think it through first. This should not be about revenge. She actually did you a favor and showed you what a scumbag your husband is. If it wasn't her, it would have been someone else. Also, you don't know what she did and did not know. Please think this through before going after her. No rash decisions.

I believe you posted "one of the woman" I agree with Montgomery Dad. If you are all about revenge, then you better place the blame at your ex's feet. You have no clue to what he said to them, and if he tried place all the blame on them, I would thank my lucky stars I found out what kind of a man he is and just get on with your life. He is NOT worth your time or energy.
Good luck

I get the anger. I've had my share of revenge fantasies.

In my opinion dating a married individual is WRONG, for everyone involved.

In my mind if someone can't exit their relationship with respect and dignity, its indicative of their character and I'm not interested from the get go.

What you need to know is that no matter how wrong it was, she couldn't have done a thing to a quality man with love and respect for his family.

If it wasn't her, it would've been someone else because your ex was on the prowl

Be angry at the right person.

To me, if some other woman can take him, I don't need him in my life anyway.

Use your anger to take him to court, get what you're entitled to and hold him accountable

Ooo girl...I've been there. I don't know about you but almost everytime i would send a message i would regret it a short while later. I agree with previous posts that this woman is not the root problem of your marriage. Maybe he was lying to her the way he was lying yo you. If you want to hash things out with her and explain the hurt that she has caused you, no one can stop you. She may be able to offer some insight on your husband and his schemes and that may give you the strength and awareness to handle this issue in your marriage a better way. If you want answers/closure with this woman just think about how to approach it so that you feel better after doing so...not worse.

I was in the same situation with my wife. Was cheating on me with a couple of guys and I had all their info, addresses, names, phone numbers, the whole nine yards. I walked away with my head held high and never contacted anyone. It helped salvage what little bit of dignity I had left. I would suggest you do the same.

It is too late. I contacted her and she denied it. He quickly changed his relationship status to divorced on Facebook.

For you sanity you should stop digging. It doesn't matter who it is since he doesn't want to stay married. Yes it sucks. I totally get it. I have been just focusing on me and the kids.

I know this may be a hard pill to swallow, but I think it would do you good to start aiming all your energy towards yourself and specifically how you will move on from this : like if you are living together, where will you go? will he leave? if you have kids together how will you prepare them for the split? will you be okay financially and stuff like that. and I say this from experience, I wish so much that I had placed my energy towards the right things, because I wouldn't be where I am now, banging my head against the wall because I'm stuck sleeping under the same roof for the next short while, when I could have been in my own place had I taken the time to plan.
I would literally rather be cramped in a small apartment but I was to busy trying to prove all his lies to him and catch them and stuff.
I know the pain of this makes you want to obsess but if you do, you will be sorry you did, I promise.
{HUGS }

Besides, don't give them any ammunition to blame the "crazy ex".

Your giving a shit about her just gives her power

She's not worth it. Besides, who knows what line of garbage he fed her. It's his bad. She's just stupid for listening to the cake eaters flimsy reasons as to why he's not taking care of business

You can bet your bottom dollar he blamed it all on you.

She's getting a real prize (not)

You all are so right. Yes I am trying to focus on recovery. This is the hardest thing to do. I currently own my home and he's already moved out. I'm having trouble with this emtionally.

We all are. It sucks.

Just remember to make yourself your number one priority.

Today is a rest day. The kids are with him and I miss them terribly. You are a wise person. Thank you for being there. You guys are the only thing that keeps me from swallowing a whole bottle of pills. This pain is horrific.

I actually did swallow a bottle of pills.

I'm good and angry with myself for that now.

I didnt know about this forum. I mistakenly thought it was the end of the world.

It wasn't. And he was never worth the agony.

It WILL pass.

Yes yes that's exactly how I feel. Wow this heartache is just that, heartache. SG I'm so happy you are here to encourage me. I need it.