Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Hi group. Havent posted in a couple weeks but here is an update. My ex and I had started texting and calling again and things were going ok. She even talked about me moving by her after I made some changes personally. Meanwhile she was telling me that she needed some money for some health issues and stuff so me being codependent I sent her some. Things keep going ok, I had a medical scare myself and she was supportive as she could be from 3 hours away. Then this past Tuesday out of nowhere she tells me that our phone calls which sometime got a couple hours long were "unrealistic" and we just cant do them, we can text but that's it. I asked her what going on and now she says that I may be wanting more than she can give now and she doesn't want a relationship. So I had noticed her getting distance from me when I texted her I e not responding saying she was busy etc. I kept trying to talk to her about it and I finally had a meltdown at work crying etc while texting her and lost it. I was hysterical because I saw this from her when we got together and this is how she did her last guy. Well I ended up saying some stupid things and ended up in hospital because I have high blood pressure and had heart attack last year. Anyway now she wont talk to me now and she only text me when we talk about making arrangement for the money which she do t want to pay back all of. She calls me a selfish f_^_ when I try and I know she has some other guy now and she doesn't need me anymore for anything. I think she just fed me enough to keep me hanging on until she screwed some other guy. She acted the exact same way to the guy before me. What is wrong with me. Please help
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check out that smoke ring. It tasted really good. I smothered it with Maulls BBQ sauce which is Local to St. Louis and one of the best I ever had.....
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I was recently separated from my wife of 33 years and it's complicated. Anyway I rented a room about 15 minutes away and I see my kids about once a week. I see the people who own the house I live in once in a while but other than that I stay in my room where I do my cooking, wash dishes in the shower, read, color, and sleep. I get out at least once a day. I grocery shop and I attend 2 meetings...
Sorry to hear that you are being treat badly. It happens, we all want to be loved. There is nothing wrong with you. Your ex is a good manipulator and you still care for her so it helps her get want she needs.
Now! you know that talking to her will affect your health so delete the phone number and do something that makes you happy.
Happy Valentine Day!
I'm pretty sure had you had someone to talk to about your intention to loan money to the ex, they would have told you "Hell no!".
When it happened to me, I was so upset that I didn't want to live anymore but I took the advice of my brother in law who had a similar experience. He said, "Don't contact her at all" "Don't even tell her why you are not talking to her and I guarantee, you will hear from her within 3 months"....sure enough, I got a phone call a little over 2 months later....She said, "Let's talk" I knew she was seeing someone else, at the time but I never mentioned it to her. I just wanted to listen to her in a Loving and compassionate way. She wanted to get back together with me but I declined. I didn't tell her this but I had my eyes on someone else so it worked out for both of us. She was seeing someone who she later married and had a kid with and I was getting interested in a younger girl with blonde hair that really turned me on and whom I later married..... So we both got what we wanted, which is how the universe works :)
Reminds me of the song: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=545Rlj1hITo