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I feel so stupid

Charity6262
Charity6262
After my stbx beat me up in June I left him and I have been doing ok I guess. I started seeing this other guy about 2 months ago and yesterday he broke up with me over text message and on top of that my mom picked up the rest of my stuff from my stbx. The reality of "I am all alone" has set in and I cryed myself to sleep last night because I still love my stbx and I really care for this other guy. I feel numb to the world and like my heart is torn into so many piece that I will never be able to put it back together. I feel so stupid because I keep falling into the same trap over and over. What is wrong with me?
deleted_user
deleted_user
Do yourself a Huge Favor. Go and see a Therapist and get some answers to this Now. Please do Not spend a life falling into this, when you can stop it now and Enjoy your life.
Charity6262
Charity6262
I do see a theropist, shrink, and I go to group theropy but most of the time it just doesn't help.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Therapy can be good, but it doesn't always solve the problem -- can be hard to get a good "match" for yourself with a therapist -- frankly, i get more help here at DS by a long shot than I do from therapy 2-3 times a month!
deleted_user
deleted_user
nothing is wrong with you. you were right not to be with someone who beats you up, and if the other didn't leave over a text message, it would have been something else. take time for yourself, your a beautiful woman, you deserve the best.counseling is very helpful for a lot of us.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are a beautiful person who doesn't see her own worth. If you did you would not care for someone who beat you up. Please get help for your lack of self esteem now before you end up ruining your life by getting pregnant by a jerk and bringing a child into a dysfunctional relationship.
I know because it happened to me and now that i've gotten help and have self esteem i never had I wish I had stopped making bad choices a long time ago. For YOURSELF get help.
Charity6262
Charity6262
My stbx has a little girl by a different marrage and I miss her so much. When I left she asked me "mommy why are you leaveing me?" and that hurt me. I just want her to be happy and healty.