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5 times in the last 9 years he broke up with me and came back. And I was always there with open arms. I've come to realize he is a narcissist. He would break up with me knowing I would always be there when he wanted to come back.
This last time was a doozy. We hadn't spoken for a month then he calls and says he wants to talk and that I should go to his house later that night. I go and he says we should have sex. I say no lets talk then have sex. He says forget it. We won't have sex and we won't talk. I pretty much beg for sex so we can talk. After sex he tells me he's been sleeping with someone else and wants her to be his gf too. Still wants me in his life! Wants as many girlfriends as he can! Tells me to call him when I make up my mind. Also tells me I should give him credit for being honest. Wtf??!!
He was never really nice to me. Once, when we lived together with my two and his two kids, he told me to get the f out, that I was worthless, that I didnt do anything, that no man will like me because I have one breast, and that, "and don't tell me you have cancer, that doesn't matter". I should tell you I am terminally ill with metastasized breast cancer, and I was (and still am) going thru chemo.
We now live apart and have for the past year, but we tried keeping our relationship going.
Earlier this year I tell him collection agencies keep calling me because of HIS bills I let him put in my name. I tell him it's going to ruin my credit. You won't believe what he said. He said, "seriously, what does it matter? You're not gonna be around much longer".
So, why does it hurt so bad? Why am I crying over this, this person who is/was so mean to me? I am so afraid when I go out I will run into him and or her. Every woman I see I wonder if that is her and does she know who I am. It hurts so bad.
I am prepared for when he calls, and we all know he will, but I am prepared to NOT answer his calls...ever again. And if I run into him out and about, when he approaches me I am prepared to say, I have nothing to say to you, and walk away.
It just hurts.
There are many more awful stories but I don't want to go into them right now.
Thanks for listening and any and all good vibes, advice, mojo, and voodoo magic you send my way.
This last time was a doozy. We hadn't spoken for a month then he calls and says he wants to talk and that I should go to his house later that night. I go and he says we should have sex. I say no lets talk then have sex. He says forget it. We won't have sex and we won't talk. I pretty much beg for sex so we can talk. After sex he tells me he's been sleeping with someone else and wants her to be his gf too. Still wants me in his life! Wants as many girlfriends as he can! Tells me to call him when I make up my mind. Also tells me I should give him credit for being honest. Wtf??!!
He was never really nice to me. Once, when we lived together with my two and his two kids, he told me to get the f out, that I was worthless, that I didnt do anything, that no man will like me because I have one breast, and that, "and don't tell me you have cancer, that doesn't matter". I should tell you I am terminally ill with metastasized breast cancer, and I was (and still am) going thru chemo.
We now live apart and have for the past year, but we tried keeping our relationship going.
Earlier this year I tell him collection agencies keep calling me because of HIS bills I let him put in my name. I tell him it's going to ruin my credit. You won't believe what he said. He said, "seriously, what does it matter? You're not gonna be around much longer".
So, why does it hurt so bad? Why am I crying over this, this person who is/was so mean to me? I am so afraid when I go out I will run into him and or her. Every woman I see I wonder if that is her and does she know who I am. It hurts so bad.
I am prepared for when he calls, and we all know he will, but I am prepared to NOT answer his calls...ever again. And if I run into him out and about, when he approaches me I am prepared to say, I have nothing to say to you, and walk away.
It just hurts.
There are many more awful stories but I don't want to go into them right now.
Thanks for listening and any and all good vibes, advice, mojo, and voodoo magic you send my way.
Unfortunately, you are on the hook for his bills. If you can, pay them up and consider it good riddance.
You deserve so much better than him...
I hope you can find that one thing that will inspire you, that will make you move on with your head held high.
I know it's hard, I'm feeling similar feelings of wanting to go back to my emotionally abusive ex, but I have to just say no to them because I don't want to end up in the same bad position I was in before.
Sometimes we have to stop taking them back. I firmly believe this. I am trying to do the same thing.
I know when you are in the thick of it, it is very hard to think straight. Adding to that the trauma of going through breast cancer I just cannot imagine the strength you have inside you.
You are so much better than this person. I understand the hold that he has on you and may always have on you but I'm sure you can tell from the reactions to your post that his behaviour is not love. He is using you.
Do you feel you can be without him in your life? I strongly urge you to try. If that means not accepting his calls, changing your number etc then please start with that. You can do this, you are worth so much more.
Do you have family or friends that are supporting you at the moment? Please rely on them when you feel low or are struggling. Or come along here and tell us, there are some amazing people who can offer you advice or just lend an ear.
Please feel free to contact me at any time, if you want to vent. Lots f positive thoughts sent your way xx