Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
my daughter just told me that my husband has just sat her down and told her hes back with the OW.im so gutted,he rowed with her 3 weeks ago and i let him come home,he said he wanted to give us another go and for a week it was great.then he obviously had been in contact with her as he told me he didnt love me and left again.i feel like i would love to wipe the smirk off her big ugly fat face and tell her about what went on while he was here as im sure she dosent know.but could i do that or is that bad?
Some suggest that he is not worth the effort in the contact at all, and neither is she.
Some say that you have to examine what outcome you are looking for.
Will he come back home if you do this, or do you think he will? Will they both think you have lost your mind and try to use that against you in court if there are children?
Will it change anything at this moment? He has made this decision twice now, and that kind of repeat behavior is telling.
I know that it is hard , sometimes harder the second time around. I know this well, but I finally had to let mine go after the 4th time, and 19 years later in my 50's. My advice is to vent to us here, journal it and lock it to friends only.
It doesn't sound as if they have a great relationship, but right now, try and concentrate on you. Get into some counseling, and try not to let what they are doing control you as a woman and parent. Be there for your daughter, as she has been thrust into a situation that she is probably having difficulty understanding.
My heart goes out to you, because I remember how much it hurts. I finally had to stop the revolving door on my marriage as I finally figured out that I want to be Plan A, and not Plan B. Big healing hugs, Kimmee
i know its probably for the best.i just need to get him out of my system and move on,i mean how much hurt can someone take.i wish i wasnt so weak and could just get angry and see him for what he is(a spineless,weak excuse for a father and husband).see im getting there..
I told my exes girlfriend that he had been texting me & asking to stay with me, i had the proof but she still refused to believe me.
I know you would like her to see what he is really like & feel like you have some revenge but it will just make them more determined to prove you wrong. I wish i had never said the things i did, i am better than that.
you are right,i cant be botherd to get involved with thier mess.good luck to them they are going to need it.he only lived with her 3 weeks and left her twice but apparently it was all my fault that they rowed because i made him feel so guilty about the kids that his head was all over the place.
Don't waste your energy on either one of them. Start taking steps to take care of yourself.