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I feel sick

llmt
llmt
I'm starting to actually feel very sick now. I haven't slept in a long time...months. I sleep about 3 hours a night broken and I know, I know I'm in a severe depression (and I am taking medication). I'm back in the throws of where do I start to rebuild with no job. I've seen lawyers but we still live in limbo. I want some remnants of an old life back. I want a full time job with benefits that I CAN support my kids. I want a dayshift job so I can be here after school to help with homework. I want him to pay. I want him to feel the pain I do....I want so much but yet I can seem to get ahead. I don't even know what agencies in Delaware to look up for social services or anything. I wish I would wake up from this nightmare. I'm either angry or sad, especially when my 6 year old sees us do things as a family. I don't think that is good. I hold onto a crumb of hope that way...but that only ends up putting me in despair. That is where I am..in despair and it's sad and I'm a sad case for being like this.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh hon ((((((((Hugs))))))) It is all very overwhelming. One day at a time..... solve just ONE problem today... Tell yourself that ONE thing needs to get done. Sometimes I can then find motivation to keep going, but if not, at least i feel good about accomplishing what I told myself HAD to happen. You are not in any shape to do it ALL today. None of the issues have quick answers and you are not well. I am not well, either. But every day I get up and try again. And journal. And read stories here to feel like I'm not alone. Are you a SAHM? I am and that seems to add to the pressure--instead of just healing, I try to think up fast careers in my mind. I try to work them out schedule-wise around the kids' schedules. It is so worrisome. It is hard to think about not being there for your kids..

(((((hugs))))))
deleted_user
deleted_user
I PM'd you
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's very difficult living in limbo, I know. You will get through it, it just takes time. Take one day, one step at a time. Talk to churches and other support agencies too, they can help you get on track a little with some support. Get all the help and support you can now while you need it and don't feel guilty about it. Just go slow and don't push or rush yourself. Just do what you can and don't fret about what you can't. Hang in there.
patti22
patti22
First things first.

Work on the job, or work on schooling for a better job.

Night shift is no fun, I know, I've been doing it for the last year. But it's what I needed to do to get by.

But one job often leads to another better one. You just have to start somewhere.

Hugs. And anyway I've found nothings better for sleep than staying up 3 days in a row then crashing. (I take the crumbs of the benefits of working nights wherever I can!)