Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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BluAngel2 01/01/2011

I've finally come to the point that I know that my relationship with my ex is over, but now that we are just talking as friends, I find myself falling back in love with him! Like this is seriously taking its toll on me because I don't know what to do.

I love him and I told him last night I always will, but he left me. He broke up with me (on the 21st) ....and I am having a hard fucking time accepting that its over, but I know that it is really over.

We've been thru a fucking shitload and now I don't know how to act, or how to make everything okay again. I don't know how to live without him and I don't know what to do now that he's gone. I'm really fucking scared I am going to hurt myself...because when I am alone and no one is on my mind like 24/7 I think about all my problems and I don't know how to handle them besides by cutting.

I can't breathe anymore, and I would do just about anything to get him back in my life. I NEED him here with me...

deleted_user 01/01/2011

Stop. Don't hurt yourself. Please call suicide help line. there's a way to get through this. I Promise. If you're online friend me and let's chat.

deleted_user 01/01/2011

I truly feel your pain, we all do.That is why we are all here and thank god for this site. It hurts, the sheer agony, can't breath, can't function feeling. We are here to help each other. You can get through this with help from us and suicide help line. Call it!! Be strong.

deleted_user 01/01/2011

Now why would you do that, you're 19 yrs old and have your whole life ahead of you. Think about it, I'm sure you'll make a better choice then suicide. There isn't a person on earth that's worth all of this.

See a counselor......good luck

deleted_user 01/01/2011

Don't love him for leaving you, love him for entering your life.

deleted_user 01/01/2011

You have to stop. Today my husband texted...yep again...to say that he meant it when he said he loves me still.
what the hell? then I asked. He didn't know. Really? I told him I can't just be friends with him. I need 'my husband' or I just can't.
You can't....it will just keep you on the roller coaster.
But I feel your pain.

deleted_user 01/01/2011

I am where you are right now and I am so sorry that you are going through this. I too know that it is over, and I have thought about every way possible to try to get him back, but I know that I have to let go. I love him with all my heart, can't say anything bad about him, other than he changed in a very short period of time (but I am chalking it up to him being a recovering alcoholic).
They have to do what they think and feel is best for them and we have to do the same for ourselves. No man is worth hurting yourself for. You need him to see that you ARE so much better than that.

This site has helped me so much since I joined. Knowing others feel the same things that I feel, think the same things I think , and people who know just the right words to say....its a good feeling!
(((((hugs)))))

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