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tynee5511 10/15/2017

I can't question the choice that I have made because I feel that I should have made it before now. I knew in my heart that he did not love me and was not willing to accept the fact that he was only here for his son in that case I will be shorted on the lot that I should truly receive. Now I sit here with an empty house and I feel so alone and of course it makes me question but with him I felt so alone as well I felt used I felt disrespected I felt ugly I felt old. So now I wonder if I am more lonely now that I was with him.

Our relationship history last over 7 years and I think that I have become co-dependent during that time to the point that now I don't know how to be myself I don't know how to date I really don't know how to feel about anything. But one thing I do know is that I want someone to be with me because they truly love me I want someone to think of me the way that I think of them and I want someone that I can build with and actually wants to do that and I just did not feel that so I guess being alone is just part of the process.

Danceintherain 10/15/2017

I have the same feelings sometimes except my sentence was 22 years. I read the book Learning to Love Yourself by Gay Hendricks and it was life changing for me. This period in our life is yucky but we will all get through it. Hugs to you!

tynee5511 10/15/2017

Thanks I am going to look that book up. Hugs

HopeandMoreHope 10/17/2017

So sorry for all your pain. You sound like a thoughtful, kind, loving woman. You are grieving and it is an important process to go through. Life as you knew it, even if it was not good, has changed dramatically and it takes time to adjust. It takes time to be alone with no one else there. You have to give yourself time. You might want to spend some time with just you......and heal and feel restored. Do things that bring you joy....whatever that is....long walks, putting on music, dancing, having dinner with a friend, volunteering, cooking, reading......relaxing and breathing in life again. You spend a long time feeling bad, worrying about what he was thinking or not thinking, feeling empty. Fill yourself again with positive. Love yourself and know that things will work out. Going through this time with just you will bring you to a new understanding and you will find strength and joy again. It is only in learning to love yourself that you will be open to being loved as love was created to be. I wish you the best.

HopeandMoreHope 10/17/2017

So sorry for all your pain. You sound like a thoughtful, kind, loving woman. You are grieving and it is an important process to go through. Life as you knew it, even if it was not good, has changed dramatically and it takes time to adjust. It takes time to be alone with no one else there. You have to give yourself time. You might want to spend some time with just you......and heal and feel restored. Do things that bring you joy....whatever that is....long walks, putting on music, dancing, having dinner with a friend, volunteering, cooking, reading......relaxing and breathing in life again. You spent a long time feeling bad, worrying about what he was thinking or not thinking, feeling empty. Fill yourself again with positive. Love yourself and know that things will work out. Going through this time with just you will bring you to a new understanding and you will find strength and joy again. It is only in learning to love yourself that you will be open to being loved as love was created to be. I wish you the best.

tynee5511 10/17/2017

You are so right that is one of the reasons I broke the ties because I feel ugly and feel terrible I don't feel whole if I can't feel good about myself how can I be good for anyone. So I guess it's a Time to break away from a toxic situation and to try and work on loving me which I like me but I know that I'm not pretty which hurts me so bad and I don't understand why I'm not a kid. But with each day I'm going to try to get used to being alone

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