Breakups & Divorce Support Group
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So me and this guy were dating for about 3 months and then we called it quits :( 6 months later we became friends again and it was great and everything and then we started to date again after about another 6 months of friendship! So i thought everything was going soooo great!! until about a week ago he just broke up with me ;( we been together for 6 months. I was really angry and upset about the whole thing. And the next day i asked if i could get my stuff cuz i thought thats what ur suppose to do when u break up i donno. And he was like yeah how bout this Day? or how bout i leave it on my porch and u can come by to pick it up. So i waited like an hour to text him back but then he texts me u know the more i think about it i dont want u coming to my house. YOu been acting very immature about this and asking for your stuff in a nasty way and i just dont want u to cause problems for me. (i really didnt think i was being nasty i was just very upset and really hurting) so then i apologized over and over again and he said its fine i just am not comfortable with you coming to my house right now so i can either mail it to you or u can wait a couple of weeks and i will let u pick them up you just need to calm down a bit. SO i apologized again and said ur right i do just need to calm down a bit and really wanna be ur friend again and im sorry if i said anything wrong im just a very emtional person and i let my emotions get the best of me its just something i need to work on. I havent heard from him since that text. Im assuming i probably wont hear from him since i told him i will let you know when im ready. Im just like confused and unsure what to do... He is the love of my life! and i really do want to be his friend again cuz i dont have many freinds to begin with but im also worried like what if he doesnt text me again? Like i cant loose him forever. I havent heard or spoken to him in a week now. I just want him to come around and tell me that he made a mistake and everythin. i just donno what to do i love him so much and really wanna be his friend again do u think he will be? do u think he would be my bf again even though we broke up twice already? Please let me know what u think. Im just scared hurt confused angry basically everything
It's so hard to say whether or not you should continue.
Has he explained why he wanted to break up?
You are apologizing over and over to him, but for what? What do you think you did wrong?
- You need to calm down
- Stop thinking negative thoughts bc thoughts are real and create our world.
And stop telling him you want to atleast be his friend when you know you want more out of fear of losing him. Either you want a relationship or you don't. Its not the end all if you set a firm boundary. And think before you text in the future, we all make the mistake of talking to soon without thinking and say something we regret or don't mean, then try to recoup the hurt words and it only irratates the relationship and situation.
- Until you hear from him, focus on yourself, get busy with hobbies, when you let it go, its comes back faster.
Been afraid of
That I'm not really sure and he said that
We don't really have chemistry I mean I think we do but he said we don't. But when we broke up he said that I can still talk to him everyday and he said like he really wants to be my friend and cares so much about me. So I'm just confused. And I feel like I have to be the first to text
Hm not
Cuz I feel like he won't
Since I said I'll let u know
When I'm ready
Second concern is this: really why doesn't he want you coming over. All the rules about when and how. Does he have another girl at his place already, and he doesn't want you knowing that? Sounds like there's more to this story.
If it's such a small amount of stuff of yours over there that it can be mailed, have him box it up, pick a date to pick it up, and be done with it. I fear you'll be wasting more and more of your time hanging on to a guy who will never be there for you in the way you want him to be. You already have proof of this, believe it now. Believe that you're not the one for him, so he can't be the one for you. Plus, as long as you stay connected to this guy, you're missing out on possible relationship opportunities with other guys who actually want a real girlfriend!