Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
Dear DS,
I have asked him, for the very last time, just forget me, forget my name, forget my existence, forget that we have met in life. It hurts me so much now. But I dont hate him.
He has tried to keep me as a friend, a very special friend with special care. But it hurted. I couldnt take it. But I dont hate him.
He has tried to separate his life into two: one part for caring about me (I never let him touch me again after the break-up), and one part for f** others. I couldnt take it. But I dont hate him.
He could rarely make me happy during the relationship, and surely couldnt make me happy after the break-up. But I dont hate him.
Hes a selfish man. But I dont hate him. I dont hate him at all
From the bottom of my heart, I still wish him happiness and success. I wish him find someone and fall crazily in love. I wish him success in his career and achieve his goals. I wish he take well care of his health and never be sick without someone around to take care of him. I wish him all the best, though I cant tell him all this. I dont hate him, not even a minute. I forgive him. I forgive everything he did.
And for me, Ill live my life. Ill live the best I can. Ill do the best I can in my job. I may be too nice, too giving, dont know how to play love game, dont know how to pretend, to seduce, to attract but thats the way I am and I cant and dont want to do other ways. I can only be more careful, more suspicous, or get much slower and slower in trusting others because its my experience when time goes by and Im aging.
But for now, I will continue crying like this until the day I feel free and released. I will not hold my tears and sadness anymore. Because they need to be free and released too. I just have to drink less and smoke less. Every time I go to a party, I pray my mind to always stay with me.
I have asked him, for the very last time, just forget me, forget my name, forget my existence, forget that we have met in life. It hurts me so much now. But I dont hate him.
He has tried to keep me as a friend, a very special friend with special care. But it hurted. I couldnt take it. But I dont hate him.
He has tried to separate his life into two: one part for caring about me (I never let him touch me again after the break-up), and one part for f** others. I couldnt take it. But I dont hate him.
He could rarely make me happy during the relationship, and surely couldnt make me happy after the break-up. But I dont hate him.
Hes a selfish man. But I dont hate him. I dont hate him at all
From the bottom of my heart, I still wish him happiness and success. I wish him find someone and fall crazily in love. I wish him success in his career and achieve his goals. I wish he take well care of his health and never be sick without someone around to take care of him. I wish him all the best, though I cant tell him all this. I dont hate him, not even a minute. I forgive him. I forgive everything he did.
And for me, Ill live my life. Ill live the best I can. Ill do the best I can in my job. I may be too nice, too giving, dont know how to play love game, dont know how to pretend, to seduce, to attract but thats the way I am and I cant and dont want to do other ways. I can only be more careful, more suspicous, or get much slower and slower in trusting others because its my experience when time goes by and Im aging.
But for now, I will continue crying like this until the day I feel free and released. I will not hold my tears and sadness anymore. Because they need to be free and released too. I just have to drink less and smoke less. Every time I go to a party, I pray my mind to always stay with me.
many blessings.
((vendh))
Good luck in your future and thank you for sharing this!
Lynne
I know it hurts, for me I don't cry for him, I cry for myself, if I do. I have no anger or hate towards him at all. Because I know what he is, like yours he wanted to be my best friend instead of husband (after divorce). Acceptance comes when you truly realize, that there is no future in this relationhip, no matter how much you loved the person. You wish them good luck and sadly just walk away...
It was like you met people in a train ride, and people have different destiny, but they stay with you for a while and leave when their station comes, and our life goes on.
Please take care of yourself.....