Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
I have been broke up for over a year, with no communication for 8 months which is pretty good considering we live in a small town, and he only lives a mile up the same road as me. I choose not to go that direction, there is nothing on that side of town I need. Occasionally we pass on the road, but I know his schedule and find myself avoiding being in town during times he regularly is. I actually, with effort, seldom see him. Life is moving along, and I don't think about him that much, which is huge!!! There was a time I wasn't sure this day would come.
Then today.... I am at work, and I look up and see his motorcycle at the business next door. I don't know what this feeling is about, but it shook me to the core. I was so afraid he would see me. It's not the first time. I saw him in the store once, and walked right back out. I don't understand. Am I not over it? I defiantly don't want it back, so why don't I just not feel anything?
Then today.... I am at work, and I look up and see his motorcycle at the business next door. I don't know what this feeling is about, but it shook me to the core. I was so afraid he would see me. It's not the first time. I saw him in the store once, and walked right back out. I don't understand. Am I not over it? I defiantly don't want it back, so why don't I just not feel anything?
I think it is a coping mechanism, just moving on, not dragging up the past memories. Out of sight out of mind.
Just my opinion- you want to get on with your life, and not having to see him makes this easier for you.
Do not feel alone in these type of feelings. I have caught myself doing the same.