Breakups & Divorce Support Group

Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.

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glbreed 01/26/2015

In my fifteen year relationship my role was clear. I was the emotional one, the weak one, the one with the drinking problem, the one with the temper, the one who couldn't stand on his own. That's one of the reasons I ended our relationship, because I could no longer be the person I turned into during our time together. I hated that person. There were many other reasons why the relationship had to end. I wasn't the sole reason.

Now I'm on my own and was asked by this site about my interests. I had no clue how to answer. I don't know myself anymore. I don't know what my interests are because I changed so drastically during that relationship I forgot the things that used to make me happy.

How do I discover them again? My interests over the past four years have been drinking at the local pub. But that has no place in my life anymore. I owe myself a better life.

How do I restart my life and discover new interests?

tcl18 01/26/2015

I'm still struggling with that too. So much of my life was tied up in raising my son (autistic) and dealing with my relationship problems that it took up almost all of my time. Now that I am "free" I struggle to figure out who I am and what I like. A bit exciting at the same time though.

melissa87 01/26/2015

You try things. Is there anything you've always wanted to try? Do it.

prettymamakitty 01/26/2015

I'm right there with you. No clue who I am. Still grieving that I am not "his" anymore.

macgyver27 01/26/2015

Me too! You are not alone. I was asked that question too many times and didn't know how to answer. I try to do things out of my comfort zone. I've travelled alone and felt so proud that I navigate an airport without any help. Rented a car without help and found my way around a city I've never been too. I also volunteer at our hospital and special events with the police. I'm trying to find my way as a single and shed the couple blanket. Tough sledding in a small town. Best wishes to you

sinclair79 01/26/2015

Hi,
I know how you feel. I went on a date and when she was asking what I like to do I really had a difficult time answering that. I was also asking my cousin and her boyfriend questions and he kept saying "just be yourself". I have boo idea how to do that because my identity has been tired up as a father and a husband for the last 7 years. I didn't know who I was and I still don't.
It's a great opportunity to rediscover who you are and even redefine who you are now. You don't have to be who you were.

glbreed 01/27/2015

I'm very grateful to everyone who has shared their similar stories with me. Thank you.

shanmbr 01/27/2015

I think joining a support group such as this is a good start. But maybe also begin your day with a goal in mind, like, today I'm going to try..... see where that leads you.

NewBegin2012 01/27/2015

I like your response Shambr.

glbreed. I'm not a verbal wizard. But I guess you can take a look forward and realize that you can do anything you want, be with anyone you want and try things you have never tried before. The world is at your disposal. Get out of the pub and join some social groups. Start exercising. Read books. Or whatever you think you might find interesting and healthy. Just live life the way you envision. Life is short.

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