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Visitor0042
Visitor0042

I'm alone. 


I ended it. 8.5 years and 3 kids. 


I ended it when Nicole came into the picture. 


I love him. I still get butterflies.  


He is moving out. I don't want to be in this place. 


Is Nicole still getting everything i had asked him for? It wasn't physical he says.


I think that is what makes it harder. 


I need to be strong for my kids, but they are still young. 


I'm alone. 

Aithlyn
Aithlyn
It's hard. You dedicate your life to someone and they take advantage of you.

You'd think the gift of fatherhood would be valued, but it's not.

My husband, former best friend, didn't think much of me either. I loved him so much I lived for him.

"He once told me he'd give his last breath for me", but I don't think he knew what that meant.

At the time, hearing him say those words meant the world to me; however, I have since learned the true meaning of actions speak louder than words. I realize he's not the same person. I still smile at our old memories, but he's been corrupted by his own afflictions and lack of will.

So in short, don't idolize the him or her. People with the morals they have deserve each other. I would bet money in 7 years or less they will be separated.

In the meantime, work on you. Exercise, drink lots of water, and get plenty of sleep. Don't let depression consume you. Your looks will pay. Then you'll be more depressed. Vicious cycle. :)

I am a mother with 3 kids too. I feel the weight your carrying, but I trust in God.

Cheer up sweetheart, it will be hard, but great things are ahead.
Visitor0042
Visitor0042
Thank you. It is so hard not to think about everything she is. I hate doing this to my children. They deserve everything. I failed at protecting them from pain. From growing up in a broken home. It is hard not to see this as failure.
snflwrgrl
snflwrgrl
That happened to me too, 8 years and 2 kids later. :’( My heart hurts for you. I am so sorry!! Have you considered DivorceCare? It’s offered nationwide so there’s a good chance there’s one in your area. It put me in touch with other women just like me and I no longer felt so alone. :) It also gave me the tools I desperately!! needed to start the healing process. They also offered DivorceCare classes for my children while I was in my class. I highly encourage you to go. Hang in there! and keep being the loving and caring mother that you are <3 My boys have grown into good, big-hearted young men and this too shall pass. I will e praying for you. Big hug!!
mairbug
mairbug
Love the advice on the spying I think it will help me settle my doubts and what I keep imagining
I think as women we do have a sense for betrayal and when you just feel this ugly empty feeling deep in your belly there is something going on I don’t think my body is programmed to automatically be a jealous bitch

I have learned to be Intunned with my feelings more as every time I have a strong vibe it’s usually true

Why is that! Why do we sense when someone is doing something wrong and yet we are still there with them thinking that we will never find love or that we must deserve what we get WHY!!!!