Breakups & Divorce Support Group
Just broke up with someone or in the midst of a difficult divorce? Breaking up is difficult no matter what the circumstances are. They say that time heals all wounds, but sometimes a listening ear or a hug can work wonders for the heart. Whether you need a place to vent, someone to hold you to No Contact, or need advice about what to do, we're here to help.
With my husband I never know who is right. I think I overreact and make our arguments worse. But I still think he is wrong to an extent. I get pissed off and get in his face which he isn't use to. Then later I feel guilty and cry. I really need to learn to control my temper. He is completely over us right now. He wants me to leave. But I still think I was right to be upset with him, I just took it way too far. I don't see a lot of point to life right now. I feel so miserable and just fighting the urge to do drugs/drink/cut on myself. He won't talk to me and I deserve that. I really hurt him but he is at fault too. I am just lost.
Nobody is completely right or completely wrong at all levels. Maybe he's being wrong about something specific, or maybe it's just wrong from your perspective. It's hard to say without any detail about what he might be wrong about.
A person can be both right AND wrong in the same sentence. For example, my ex-wife said, "Our relationship is messed up, and it's all your fault."
Correct, our relationship was all messed up. This was right. However, she was wrong to cite that it was all my fault. We were both at fault, and the details of that are not important for this.
If someone didn't want me around, and didn't want a relationship with me, then I'd feel rather strange about sticking around and wanting to force it to work.
Whether he's right or wrong, it might not matter if the end result is that he no longer wants a relationship with you. You must be honest with yourself, figure out the healthy, adult thing to do, and then take action.
Best of luck.